japanese girlfriend has alot of pictures of ex boyfriends !!!

[jkapl10]

yo well i dont really know how to start this but ahh well here goes , anyways i been dating this girl from nagano for six 5 months now , and things are moving alil bit too fast (but that not the point at the min ) ... in her facebook and laptop she has pictures of her and some of her ex boyfriends , i kind of feel uncomfertable knowing that she has those pics, ( and i was not snooping through her laptop , we where looking at some of the pictures together ) and i asked her if those where pictures of her ex boyfriends and she say yeah...she keeps pictures of ex's boyfirneds who did not treat her right and stole from her ,
sooo i want to ask all japanese girls is this common for a japanese girl to keep photos of their ex boyfriends ??
should i ask her to delete them ,, or is that pushing it alil bit
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i dont know im just alil confused because none of my ex girlfriends kept pictures of their ex boyfriends, and i dont keep pictures of my ex girlfriends , i usualy just delet them and forget about that person .... but anyways im getting of the point lol .... i would really appreciate any advice ^_^

 

[Mike Cash]

I think it's sweet that a few weeks from now she'll still have some photos to remember you by.

 

[jkapl10]

she keeps pictures of ex's boyfirneds who did not treat her right and stole from her ,

i meant to say she EVEN keeps pictures of some of her ex boyfriends that didnot treat her right and stole from her .

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I think it's sweet that a few weeks from now she'll still have some photos to remember you by.

dude no need to be a d"*head , if you have no advice , dont comment

 

[Mike Cash]

And you'll join the list of ex-boyfriends someday. So what business is it of yours what she does?

 

[jkapl10]

i didnt say its my business, i said i feel weird that she has lot of them, and im asking if its common with japanese girls, cuz european girls ive dated dont do that so thats why i joined this site to ask a question . but anyways back to my question to you - if you have no helpfull advice why are you still commenting ??

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i didnt say its my business, i said i feel weird that she has lot of them, and im asking if its common with japanese girls, cuz european girls ive dated dont do that so thats why i joined this site to ask a question . but anyways back to my question to you - if you have no helpfull advice why are you still commenting ??

 

[Mike Cash]

She does something you find odd, and which could be seen as standing on a hilltop vigorously waving a humongous red flag....and your idea of making it go away is to tell her to delete the photos? Anybody who needs advice for something as blindingly obvious as this isn't open to advice to begin with.

 

[jkapl10]

ok then waht would you do in my situation ??

 

[Mike Cash]

It strikes me that the wise thing to do would be a friendly parting of ways.

The photos aren't the problem; they are the outward manifestation of the problem. In other words, they're only the visible symptom, not the disease itself.

You're wondering what is going on in the mind of a girl who has a collection of keepsake photos of guys who did her wrong....a whole stable of them, apparently. Both the keeping of the photos and whatever factor it is that leads her to take up relationships with guys like that are both huge red flags telling you that you'd be an idiot to pursue a long term serious relationship with her. They are sure indicators of drama, anguish, and grief to come your way later. But you'd rather ignore them because she's too cute or the booty is just too good to pass up or some other such relatively trivial and shallow reason which considers only the here-and-now while ignoring what somewhere in the back of your mind you know is a train wreck waiting to happen.

I'd get off the train and wave goodbye.

 

[jkapl10]

now that is good advice ... arigatou !!!

 

[ODANOBUNAGA]

i think it goes too far. even so i don't want my gf to have many ex and god knows i never want to remember my ex. but i think its awesome she keeps the pics. I'm sentimental too and i wish i had still pics of all girls i ever liked, even those that only i liked and they didn't like me back. i think thats really great i wish i had a pic of naoko that would be cool. anyway i think you shouldn't ask to delete them, because you destroy her life, when you are gone she will have lost all her valuable memories because of your selfishness.

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mike you are wrong, just because they are parted doesn't mean they did her wrong. they could also just stopped having a relation mutually, or she overstated the relationship. maybe they all died on cancer

 

[Mike Cash]

Did you read the original post? End of the first paragraph? That they did her wrong was information from the original poster, not my conjecture.

 

[ODANOBUNAGA]

my mistake, yes that is weird indeed.
anyway did she say what they stole?? thats really sad somehow and weird..

really i thought i read the entire post, i really don't know how i could have overlooked that

 

[SevenStarsHK2N]

You think This Girl keeping photo's and keepsakes of her past boyfriends is unique to this girl.

LOL - Perhaps she has been the first that you meet who has been open and honest with you to not hide these things.

And you want to kick her to the curb because of it?

In the real world, people are likely to keep things from their past.

If you get super serious at some point in the future, I would expect that she stores those pictures away somewhere.

Though I see no reason why she would want to or should delete them.

You would be a complete muppet to suggest she delete them.

So take a chill pill, and consider yourself lucky that you have found a girl that can be honest to you, even when it may not make you 100% happy.

Or if you can't deal with it, find a woman who will lie to you.

 

[Mike Cash]

Who are you talking to? That guy is long gone.