[sorry, i dont know which thread this should go in..]
in a little more than a month i'm going to japan for spring break and my older friend/guardian and i are staying with a host family for the week. she told me to bring a gift for the family who is hosting us, and i was wondering what sort of things should i bring [american souvenirs? original art since im an artist?] and also how on earth do i go about giving it? i recall reading something ages ago about proper ways to give and receive gifts and words to say and etiquette, can anyone share their knowledge/advice?
thank you!
Something from your home country is always a good idea to give as a gift to Japanese people. English tea, Scotch whiskey, shortbread biscuits, jam and conserves and any other suitable gift that you may not be able to puchase in Japan are all good ideas.
It is recommended to give consumable items as they can be shared with friends or colleagues etc, and are also not likely to take up lots of space in a Japanese house.
Anything with a brand name is always appreciated, especially if it is has a close connection with your home country or city. For example Harrods or Cath Kidston etc.
Now,
Proper ways to give your Gifts
DO's
- Prepare a selection of different gifts so that if you are unexpectedly given a gift, you will have something to give back in return.
- Carry your wrapped gift in a separate bag so that you can be more discreet with carrying it around before you give it.
- Use both hands to present the gift. Similarly, use two hands to receive any gift you might be given.
- Give a gift in private if you are only giving to a single individual.
- Be modest about your gift. The act of giving the gift is much more important than the actual gift so you can convey this by saying "Tsumaranai mono desu ga" which means "This is just a small thing…"
- Refuse to accept a gift once or twice if you are offered one. Even though you should accept it eventually, it is polite to pretend that it is too much to receive.
DON'T's
- Surprise anyone by giving a gift at an inappropriate time such as when many other people are around.
- Rush when opening your gift if you open in front of others. Appreciate the wrapping that someone did for the gift.
- Use black red or white wrapping paper as it symbolises death. Go for something subtle and not too bright.
- Give your gift immediately. Wait until the end of the visit or until the atmosphere is more comfortable before you give your gift.
- Give a gift that is "Made is Japan" as it may appear as an inappropriate choice.
