Do Japanese women make good wives?

alantin · 15 Nov 2007

Sorry for not reading the whole thread and excuse me if someone has already said this but in the past, weren't Japanese women primarily raised to be wifes?

If my memory serves me right most J-women still quit their jobs when they get married..

So I would be shocked if they didn't make good wives, although they might have a different idea of what that means than a western person would..
I think a westerner should do some serious study before marrying a Japanese person. The cultural differences are quite severe..

Haruspex · 15 Nov 2007

longtailedmonkey said:
if you love, you take everything, the person, the family, the lifestyle, everything, because you love that person.

Ne chance, that ain't gonna work, its more bout the compromises in my opinion, its way more easy not to annoy someone than for him to endure.

JerseyBoy · 18 Nov 2007

If I am going to marry, I will let the would-be wife to work. I don't want to be a sole bread winner and I consider a marriage as a partnership sharing the jobs and burdens at the same time (so, she gotta work to pitch in the household finance).

In Japan, generally speaking, the would-be husband is supposed to say to his would-be wife that he would make her happy when she marries him. I won't say that as it is not my responsibility to make someone happy. Happiness has to be attained with his or her own will and efforts. Of course, I would contribute to that cause; but, I have no intention making that my own responsibility.

I don't want a kid. So, that may be another turn-off for some Japanese women.

I might go for a pre-nap to make sure I have a warranty in case a marriage turns out to be defective.

I am leaning toward marrying a non-Japanese, if I have an option.

Damicci · 20 Nov 2007

This thread makes me laugh, i'll be back in 3 years with a reply.

tokapi · 20 Nov 2007

My Japanese chat pal told me that except for a handful of strong-will career minded professionals,over-whelming majority of married Japanese women still prefer to stay home enjoy comfortable lifestyle.Because of this one particular reason,inter-marriage rate is relatively low & divorce rate is at nearly 50% between Japanese chicks & Western guys if compare to all other Asian nationalities.

SushiShin · 21 Nov 2007

I don't care what people say about me and what they think, everyone has his/her own idea's and I respect that, so I also want that you do this too.

I like Japanese girls as much as I like other girls.

But the question is : Do Japanese women make good wives?

anwser: simple, if you think you got the right one, then the anwser is yes, if you are doubting about your marriage because she drinks or suicidal etc.... then believe me your relationship won't last long.

It's the person that makes a good husband/wife not the race or the nationality.

SushiShin · 25 Nov 2007

I think to be honest that any wife makes a good wife only based on these following things:

*Love
*Thrust

if one of these 2 parts is missing then your relationship is at an end, you have to love and thrust each other and then you have nothing to complain.

deathtrap · 25 Nov 2007

Herbal Shin said:
I think to be honest that any wife makes a good wife only based on these following things:
*Love
*Thrust
if one of these 2 parts is missing then your relationship is at an end, you have to love and thrust each other and then you have nothing to complain.

Hah. Awesome typo! Coincidentally that's how I think. You need love, trust, and thrust baby!

Mikawa Ossan · 25 Nov 2007

Herbal Shin said:
*Thrust

I thought that was the man's responsibility in your standard mariage!

leonmarino · 25 Nov 2007

Mikawa Ossan said:
I thought that was the man's responsibility in your standard mariage!

Bwahahaha!!

Long time no see Ossan-san!!

SushiShin · 25 Nov 2007

Mikawa Ossan said:
I thought that was the man's responsibility in your standard mariage!

Lol, indeed! But there are some other factors that you need too, if you understand what I mean

LateNight~* · 1 Dec 2007

Jean-Francois said:
I can only tell you what I've seen.
My Canadian and American white friends who have Japanese wives are very happy with them (some are even pround of that).
The following is a list of their most common comments (some maybe offensive to white women):
1. Japanese women don't get fat like American women.
2. Japanese women may not do all the housework but at least they cook. American women watch soap opera and serve hot-dogs with chips from Lays.
3. As much as Japanese women like shopping. They always put their kids and husbands first.
4. My J-wife rarely raises her voice at me like my ex-wife did.
5. My J-wife doesn't complain when I have to travel away because of work. She understands that the man has to earn a living.
Don't get mad at me, I am just telling what I have heard. I've never married to a J-girl so I can't tell you how true are the above statements.
But one time I went to a restaurant with my Japanese friend who had been married to her American husband for more than three years at the time. We each ordered a boiled lobster. My friend only ate the tail, the head and some of the claws and took the rest of the lobster home to her husband.
When her American husband was eating the lobster, he asked, " Which restaurant did you two go to ? They have very good lobster, lots of meat!"

Oh my God! I'm wayyyy too feminist 2 be a good housewife. I literally wanted to jump thru the screen and punch the guys who stated those comments. :box:
There are many cultures that have the "perfect" wife according to some men not only Japanese. Mexicans, Indians, any latino race 2 be honest, etc. etc. However, these countries also are seen as oppressive when it comes to a woman's role in the family. There is quite a correlation between the two.
I'm Mexican but I was raised in the U.S. so I'm the complete opposite of the "perfect" housewife. My mom hates that about me. I don't cook very well, I don't clean, and I don't take care of my older brother when she's away (like feeding him, cleaning his room, washing his clothes, etc.). Let me just say this 2: my brother is 28.
Yeah I can c the feminist rising in some of you. Welcome to my world.

maushan3 · 2 Dec 2007

LateNight~* said:
There are many cultures that have the "perfect" wife according to some men not only Japanese. Mexicans, Indians, any latino race 2 be honest, etc. etc. However, these countries also are seen as oppressive when it comes to a woman's role in the family. There is quite a correlation between the two.
I'm Mexican but I was raised in the U.S. so I'm the complete opposite of the "perfect" housewife. My mom hates that about me. I don't cook very well, I don't clean, and I don't take care of my older brother when she's away (like feeding him, cleaning his room, washing his clothes, etc.). Let me just say this 2: my brother is 28.
Yeah I can c the feminist rising in some of you. Welcome to my world.

I don't know if you know about Mexico nowadays, at least modern-middle-high class Mexicans are seriously changing this pattern over the years. Now, it is the same ratio of female/male population going to university which means that most probably both husband and wife will be going to work, hence the same thing that emerged in America decades ago.

Wifes in Japan, well, they might go to university, but most women will wind up as housewive anyways.

Mauricio

Han Chan · 2 Dec 2007

LateNight~* said:
I literally wanted to jump thru the screen and punch the guys who stated those comments. :box:

I understand why you can get upset at those pathetic male-chauvinists. I merely feel sory for such guys, because the only relation they will ever be able to have with any women, will be when to actually pay for it!

Men who do not respect women are not men.

LateNight~* · 2 Dec 2007

maushan3 said:
I don't know if you know about Mexico nowadays, at least modern-middle-high class Mexicans are seriously changing this pattern over the years. Now, it is the same ratio of female/male population going to university which means that most probably both husband and wife will be going to work, hence the same thing that emerged in America decades ago.
Wifes in Japan, well, they might go to university, but most women will wind up as housewive anyways.
Mauricio

I should know about Mexicans. I visit every year (I've been going for the past 10 years or more). And I do agree that the woman's role is changing. Heck they were thinking Vicente Fox's wife was going to run for president for a while. But then again, these are the upper crust of Mexico, the more educated public.

However, I also know the modern-lower-class Mexicans who are still stuck in traditions. They are still passing the same male-chauvinist ways to their children. I've seen my own family do it. Mexico is changing but it'll sure be awhile...

Haruspex · 2 Dec 2007

Han Chan said:
I understand why you can get upset at those pathetic male-chauvinists. I merely feel sory for such guys, because the only relation they will ever be able to have with any women, will be when to actually pay for it!
Men who do not respect women are not men.

Although I don't have a reason to disagree with this, but its so awfully cliché lol. I've had this Order of the Garter flash this instant

SushiShin · 9 Dec 2007

I like Japanese girls...
I still don't know why.
Is it because of the language? the cute faces? the cute voices? their lenght?

I would be happy if my wife would be japanese

Haruspex · 9 Dec 2007

Been stated several times, we know you love them.

SushiShin · 9 Dec 2007

Derfel said:
Been stated several times, we know you love them.

just checking that you won't forget it and that the whole thread is just a way of express your feelings towards japanese women.

There are different people and they have their own goals and idea's please respect them.

Haruspex · 9 Dec 2007

Don't get me wrong, I don't disrespect it or anything, I just stated that you have stated it multiple times. Its a fact, I never said it meant something good or bad.

MadamePapillon · 9 Dec 2007

Herbal Shin said:
I like Japanese girls...
I still don't know why.
Is it because of the language? the cute faces? the cute voices? their lenght?
I would be happy if my wife would be japanese

Maybe what you really want is a cute, fluffy little kitten that speaks japanese.

A wife is a lot more than a big bundle of cute.

I think you're in love with a fantasy, not an actual woman....or girl. When I hear excessive use of the word 'cute' I think girl, as opposed to women who I think of more in terms of sexy/sensual.
But that's a whole 'nother discussion.

miu · 10 Dec 2007

I think it's worth considering culture differences also: if someone is quiet, it doesn't mean that s/he's 100% fine with everything you do. I seriously doubt Japanese woman are just all cute and fluffy

SushiShin · 11 Dec 2007

To love them or love them not that is the question.
Are they good wives or aren't they good wives that is the question.

And there is only one anwser.

What I think?
Well my time has still have to come, to find a descent Japanese girlfriend.

nice gaijin · 11 Dec 2007

Herbal Shin said:
Are they good wives or aren't they good wives that is the question.
And there is only one anwser.

Funny, I thought there was more than one Japanese woman in the world.

ghost writer · 11 Dec 2007

Such an odd question to ask...

For someone to have to ask this question says a lot. 1.) You've never dated an Asian women. 2.) You don't have any Asians in your circle of friends to figure out the answer on your own. I would think any women would make a good wife regardless of race. Depending of course on how compatable the two of you are together. I believe in opposites attrack but too much of a difference could be harmful. I always say... "We have enough in common to bring us together and enough differences to keep it interesting".

Good topic though....

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