Are the things we give important or just the flotsam and jetsam carried along by the love we share?
If what one wants is non-physical in nature (the opportunity to help one that they love, the ease of mind of knowing a loved one is safe and secure, etc.) is it less/more/equally important as if it were a physical item? Less/more/equally fulfilling?
If a relationship looks selfish to one, does it mean it is selfish, or is it just colored by one's own expectations and experiences?
Ask your mother someday about the feelings it evoked when she would give you a scarf before you left the house on a cold winter morning.