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Yeah. Wouldn't anyone?
Japanese guys and black women?
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Goldiegirl
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Then why won't you date black guys? I understand that we all have looks that we are attracted too, that's just human nature, it doesn't mean that that is the right person for us. I'd love a guy like Brad Pitt, but I certainly didn't not date my husband because he falls way short of that ideal. I took in the whole person, not just looks. But hey to me he's hot! 
Goldiegirl
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at 16 have fun! Date a lot, it's fun and you get to learn about yourself as much as the other person.
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Hm.Well going back to pokemon, there was a pokemon called "Jinx". She had black skin,long hair and thick lips. I saw pokemon again and this time Jinx had purple skin. It hurt my feelings when I asked my best friend why and she said that people were comkparing Jinx to a black woman. I wondered if the Japanese were making fun too. So from that I always wondered how racist the people in Japan are.
Jinx isn't black, jinx is referred to Japanese Ganguro Girls, they used to paint their whole face in another colour.
she wasn't black here is the link
Jynx - Wikipedia
and here is for the link of Ganguro
Ganguro - Wikipedia
never think you are ugly, because if you are ugly, what are the other people then?
Nobody is perfect, be happy you're black, be satisfied with who you are and where you come from. I used to be sad too because i don't have much japanese friends here, and its here where i spend the most time of my life.
Never say Japanese are racists because if they were then all the black people should leave. Racist doesn't excist its only a small click in our head, wich say okey you i like and you i hate.
Everyone is different, accept it and accept yourself.
It will be okay Skullcrushergurl, don't worried and if you wanna express your feelings then come over here and write your tears into letters.
Hugs and kisses,Shin!
she wasn't black here is the link
Jynx - Wikipedia
and here is for the link of Ganguro
Ganguro - Wikipedia
never think you are ugly, because if you are ugly, what are the other people then?
Nobody is perfect, be happy you're black, be satisfied with who you are and where you come from. I used to be sad too because i don't have much japanese friends here, and its here where i spend the most time of my life.
Never say Japanese are racists because if they were then all the black people should leave. Racist doesn't excist its only a small click in our head, wich say okey you i like and you i hate.
Everyone is different, accept it and accept yourself.
It will be okay Skullcrushergurl, don't worried and if you wanna express your feelings then come over here and write your tears into letters.
Hugs and kisses,Shin!
Damicci
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You don't date black men or black guys aren't interested?
Let's be honest here if your going to make a statement like that.
As mentioned before everyone has preferences but no one should be shunned b/c of their color of skin. It's easy to choose another ethnicity if your not being accept by others. Hence you find beat down white dudes with Japanese girls b/c more than likely they were disregarded b/c of thier looks and lack of personality but in Japan they become an object of interest b/c they are different. Not a generalization but everyone here knows it happens.
I wouldn't say Japanese aren't Racist but, how do you expect a country to act when the majority is thier own ethnicity. If your really interested in Japanese you wouldn't care if they accept you. Your attitude will definately show through to those you are after. You won't be happy with those who choose you b/c of your color and your attitude of being picky because of ethnicity will run away those are genuily interested. Think about some things.
Let's be honest here if your going to make a statement like that.
As mentioned before everyone has preferences but no one should be shunned b/c of their color of skin. It's easy to choose another ethnicity if your not being accept by others. Hence you find beat down white dudes with Japanese girls b/c more than likely they were disregarded b/c of thier looks and lack of personality but in Japan they become an object of interest b/c they are different. Not a generalization but everyone here knows it happens.
I wouldn't say Japanese aren't Racist but, how do you expect a country to act when the majority is thier own ethnicity. If your really interested in Japanese you wouldn't care if they accept you. Your attitude will definately show through to those you are after. You won't be happy with those who choose you b/c of your color and your attitude of being picky because of ethnicity will run away those are genuily interested. Think about some things.
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Well you are. Aren't you? Hm. Well it's my preference. For years I never bothered with black guys because I thought they were all ghetto but by the time I grew up enough to know better, I was already repulsed by them. No offense to you Damicci but aren't there black guys who don't like black women as well. My own preference as to what I like. Many black guys try to talk to me but they want nothing more than sex.
You think about it.
You think about it.
Haruspex
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Skullcrushergurl, you're 16, just have no worries, well i mean quite the opposite, have worries, now is the time to grab the reins of fortune, study, broaden your horizons, let your ego loose, while you are young, passionate about your motives, while you can say "get lost, i don't care". You never know, you might be a family mother in the future, or something else, blend into society like normal people do, and at that time, you will be forced upon a life of normal folk. worry not about such things as will they accept me, or will they not. We, humans, regardless of gender and skin colour are fighting. Some might not admit, but every single person who has but a small bit of self respect, self love and confidence fights to be able to live on without abandoning his ideals, beliefs. The strongest even spread it. So basically, the question is not whether they will accept... that wouldn't be bad surely but... the question is WILL YOU make them accept you if they don't at first? You need this kind of mindset bloody kilometers away from your home. When you do something grandiose as moving to a different country, you must have the mindset of a winner, one who has right to whatever she desires, the mindset of a wolf, and not a white innocent sheep. When you're in your own country you will mumble Agnus Dei, but when you are in the midst of the unknown, you must sing Credo!
Damicci
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Nothing for me to think about. I am marrying an Asian Woman, I have dated Black, White, Hispanic, Asian previously. But you can't compare your preferences to others just to dignify yourself. If you feel there is nothing wqrong with singling out one ethnicity then more power to you but if you need to ask in comparison to other people then your just trying to find a way to make your self seem like your not being a ....for some reason Japanophile comes to mind. But to say you thought "black men/boys were ghetto" is a very ignorant statement and now you say you "grew up" at 16 is hard to believe. Your not repulse by them you just don't care to change your ways.
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:banghead:And that's my decision. You decided to marry out of your race for whatever reason and it seems you shun me for it. What is Japnophile supposed to mean? Yes. I have grown out of the state of mind to think all black guys are ignorant. (Would you prefer I keep that idea?) But every time I really tell myself that,there is always one black guy who comes along and says something or does something to destroy my anti-stereotypical thought.
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Well thats probably cause of the whole rap subculture... im around 90% sure that if you were born say, 60 years ago you wouldn't have had such problems. Thats what i think at least. But you see Damicci is quite quite right there, admiring Japanese culture is great, but stay away from japanophilia. Japan sure is the dream of all of us, language learners, but even if you forget about it, which is not good or bad, you will still have your roots. Of course not marrying a black guy is pretty much your choice, but saying it so harshly is... well, you might hurt some people.
Goldiegirl
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Maybe perhaps Skullcrushergurl needs to widen her circle of friends as well...as I would tell my friends you date drunks because you picked the guy up at a bar. Don't go to a bar, duh! There are plenty of intelligent black guys around, it's just that I think most young men are a little slow at growing up (not picking on guys! I like you really!), and they do say some really lame stuff to get girls attention. It's usually the wrong stuff and a real turn off to girls/women. You just gotta give them some time to mature.
Don't you think you're being just a bit racist here?
I doubt that that is a white race trait if given the chance I believe every ethnicity would rather choose to have a partner from a different culture than none at all.
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Dating out of your race really isn't a big deal. People say it isn't at least but more confilcts arise from it than we think. I was dating a white guy and I finally told my grandfather. He flipped out!! I didn't expect it but I guess people are a bit more racist than they say.
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Well i wouldn't call that racism... lets just call it nationalism.
Its not like he was being a racist.
Well i wouldn't call that racism... lets just call it nationalism.
Ehm yes he was absolutly I have never heard about a black or a white or an asian nation unless maybe in some manifest of a radical racist organisation.
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All I am saying is be true, date another ethnicity b/c you like the "person" not what you see. I am attacking you b/c you have made some ignorant comments in my opnion. And still feel that black men are ghetto or whatever b/c of a few jackasses. So yeah, I am going to call you out as a Japanophile until proven wrong. No you don't have to prove me wrong but your own statements are saying otherwise. Or just need to choose your words more carefully.
I don't think any statement I made is racist just realist. You see it all the time. How a person grows up I think determines there open mindedness, I went to a mixed middle school which allowed me to intereact with all kinds of people. elementary school all black, high school all black, neighborhood all black, but that 3 years of middle school let me know all the b/s you hear about other ethnicities is opinionated. Now I have the experience to know people are people. At 16 I doubt that decision can be made with out real life experience. I mean business and personal and social experience. Then there are those who are treated a certain way by thier own ethnicity and decide "well i'll see if other ethnicity will be kinder to me". But if that isn't you, then great. Your the type who will have no problems making friends in other countries. But the questions you asked point to you care so much about Japanese people that you couldn't stand if they didn't like you.
Just my 2 cents.
I don't think any statement I made is racist just realist. You see it all the time. How a person grows up I think determines there open mindedness, I went to a mixed middle school which allowed me to intereact with all kinds of people. elementary school all black, high school all black, neighborhood all black, but that 3 years of middle school let me know all the b/s you hear about other ethnicities is opinionated. Now I have the experience to know people are people. At 16 I doubt that decision can be made with out real life experience. I mean business and personal and social experience. Then there are those who are treated a certain way by thier own ethnicity and decide "well i'll see if other ethnicity will be kinder to me". But if that isn't you, then great. Your the type who will have no problems making friends in other countries. But the questions you asked point to you care so much about Japanese people that you couldn't stand if they didn't like you.
Just my 2 cents.
Haruspex
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Skullcrushergurl, the big truth of life is that in reality there aren't races, black, white, yellow or whatever, but people that you consider part of your "pack" and people outside of it. Much like the Japanese model of their "in group" and everyone else outside. Those who aren't in that pack of yours are neutral at best, and rivals at worst. Its not like Japan and Japanese people await you with open arms... sure without a doubt if you seek you will surely find friends wherever they hell you please, and Japan is no exception. But gazing at a nation with so much awe only gives birth to racism or minority complex. Now choose which would you like? Like it or not you are Afro American. Its not good, nor is it bad, simply it is an undeniable, unchangeable fact. They only person who attempted to do something about that ended up turning into an androgynous wretch.
My advice is, like the ones who spoke before me, live your life to the fullest while you're young and vigorous. If you can get a Japanese "man", go ahead, if you can't tough luck, you'll decide if a different one does it for you, if not you won't have one, its all up to you. There's not much you can do about it. But at the end of the day only one thing matters, on your deathbed can you say that you don't bloody wanna die, or will you just let the winds carry you. And the most beautiful thing is to achieve this without turning into some hedonist scum.
My advice is, like the ones who spoke before me, live your life to the fullest while you're young and vigorous. If you can get a Japanese "man", go ahead, if you can't tough luck, you'll decide if a different one does it for you, if not you won't have one, its all up to you. There's not much you can do about it. But at the end of the day only one thing matters, on your deathbed can you say that you don't bloody wanna die, or will you just let the winds carry you. And the most beautiful thing is to achieve this without turning into some hedonist scum.
