Will Asian males have any luck??

[dreamer]

How ever I think many Asian guys are very hard to approach ...
... I don't know why really :?

The opposite is also true...it just depend where and when you do it.
Here, it is almost impossible for me to approach a western woman without her thinking I'm hitting on her (which I usually am not).

Not like I had the opportunity to meet many people outside clubs here...

Still...usually, once you've met and befriended one of them, the rest should be coming...keep on trying !

I think asian males have lots of luck. Their eyes are so exotic and handsome.
I think it would be hard if I tried to approach an asian male because I have light-brown skin

Not all asians are that "handsome"...many of those you saw on Tv or the internet had surgery...it'd like saying that all western women are blond with blue eyes and a movie-actress-like figure -_-

 

[XShaolin7]

This is an interesting discussion (at least to me). I'm Asian (Chinese), and to be honest I find more Caucasian and Latin women approaching me than Asian women. Some of this may be due to natural shyness and cultural values conveyed through environment and social mores i.e. modesty, reserve, etc. but I don't think it's necessarily the case for those Asians born and / or raised in Western societies. Also, as some have astutely pointed out, there is some sort of "novelty" factor involved.

To the original poster, I'd encourage you to focus far less (or not at all) on ethnicity, and invest more time and effort into understanding both yourself and the other person who captivates your attention. I know alot of Asians tend towards the shy and quiet end of the spectrum -- if you're like that, why not make efforts to break out of this? I had to do this, because I was painfully shy growing up. Even now there are times when I retreat into a shell of reserve because I'm uncomfortable! It can be done, though, so consider this a gentle push to get out of your comfort zone a bit. = )

Actually, to everyone I'd encourage you all to extend yourselves and be the brave one who initiates contact. Don't go into things with preconceived notions e.g. "oh, she won't want to talk to me" or "gee, he's just so shy and he'll simply retreat, what's the point?". Nothing ventured, nothing gained right? So give it a go!

 

[soykan]

Outsourcing makes sure all relationships MUST do with ethnic. Many people of certain ethnics are completely abandoned. People will not even talk to Indians or Chinese or even file a divorce as a protest against poorly planned outsourcing. All of them can't even find friends outside their ethnic anymore, that is reality. Most people (90% of world) are pretty much like Sarah Palin, evolution can reverse......

 

[Crystallize]

The opposite is also true...it just depend where and when you do it.
Here, it is almost impossible for me to approach a western woman without her thinking I'm hitting on her (which I usually am not).
Not like I had the opportunity to meet many people outside clubs here...
Still...usually, once you've met and befriended one of them, the rest should be coming...keep on trying !
Not all asians are that "handsome"...many of those you saw on Tv or the internet had surgery ...

Hm, well, that you are not trying to hit on them, that I can believe, trust me, actually I do have a few Asian online male friends (well, not here @JREF, but on an another forum) and they are very friendly but never "crosses any lines" or "taking any chances" or even saying anything remotely personal except that some may think I'm pretty ...
... ok, not that I care that much, I don't have a X on any of my online Asian male friends either ... even if one of them is stupidly cute, but he has a gf already

...it'd like saying that all western women are blond with blue eyes and a movie-actress-like figure -_-

Well, I don't know about that movie-actress-like figure (it's actually more common that Asians are very thin figured, so to speak ... ) but I'm naturally very pale and blond with blue/green eyes

 

[Ukonkivi]

I'm pretty sure Asian guys have an easier time with white girls than White guys with Asian girls.
Any Asian guy who is having trouble getting a white girl is either living in the wrong place, or is ugly.

I've only seen one white guy Asian girl couple in this mostly white and black town, and several, more than three Asian guy white girl couples.

 

[uchimizu]

Well...

I know of a few stories of japanese guys dating western girls. I heard also western girls staying in Japan complaining that they could not get the attention they were expected from japanese males.

I heard also that girls having dated a japanese person and a western person would find good things to the japanese also: usually much more attentionate, even if a little bit shier.

 

[uchimizu]

I have developped a little bit more what I saw of Japanese couples in this story ( http://uchimizu-en.blogspot.com/2008/11/japanese-couples.html ). You may want to have a look and tell me what you think.

 

[soykan]

These so-called interracial relationships tend to mislead the secret ulterior motives of western males. Its always the western males that gets the girls with zero effort, on demand at the snap of the finger.

Asian males get a western girl? Expect lynching by hooded folks in the next 30 seconds.... yet its okay for them (big mean western folks) to steal other girls for there pleasures, such is the double standards of dating discrimination in western society.

Too add injury to insult, Asian males will be given cheaper jobs, less promotion chances and secretly steal his girlfriend/wife assuming he has one. Say a word the westerner boss will fire you and give the Asian girlfriend he stole from you your position with much higher pay.

Western men dates any women from any ethnicity with ease and nobody says anything.

Asian male dates western women and western males try to make the Asian guy's life a living hell up to and including hourly lynchings by hooded men.

Western guys should really Asian guys a break, not to mention that any Asian male who actually gets a western girl DESERVES a spot on the guiness world records for being one of the most sucessfull people.

The effort it takes for Obama to be president is the effort it takes for an Asian male to get a western girlfriend.

Not to mention that the "lucky" Asian male must then hire bodyguards, lawyers, insurance agents, government officials, etc. to protect him and his future family.... from lynchings by hooded men just around the corner like always.

Not to mention the first nukes were dropped on an Asian population and many more westerners are more then eager to drop the rest on other Asian territories too with no regret or remorse for their actions.

And the whole derogatory hate filled insult about the "Asian small thingy" too is just disgustingly everywhere.

The whole "hate Asian guy" thing in the west is so severe that I have to wonder what has the Asian guy ever done to the western man to deserve this??

 

[becki_kanou]

soykan-
Attacks by hooded men? What are you smoking? Seriously none of your posts make any sense.

 

[soykan]

How does it not make sense? Western males make a big fuss about it when Asian males become friendly with western females.

Western males cannot bare the fact that non-western men can date western women. They will not allow it, period. They will fight tooth to nail to break western-women and non-western men relationship with everything including the kitchen sink and more. And that is barely scratching the surface of the depth of grudge western men has for Asian males dating western women.

Western males however, can take women from other ethnicity, all while keeping a (or multiple of) western mistress on the side and on demand, due to a superiority complex westerners have over their "lesser undesirables". Asian males are not allowed to say anything.

 

[Grandpa Frank]

Funny, I always think "go for it girl"......

when I see a western woman with a non-western man. I might even feel a bit sorry for the non-western man and wonder if he knows what he is getting into. I think most young people in todays world are pretty open about inter-mixed dating. Your discription sounds like it's from the 1950's or before or maybe what today's skinheads/KKK members believe.

Uncle Frank

☝

 

[soykan]

when I see a western woman with a non-western man. I might even feel a bit sorry for the non-western man and wonder if he knows what he is getting into.

Absolutely, should a coup-de-tete(sp?) ever happen in a modern western nation by their respective stormfront ultra-nationalists, they will persecute these people with impunity and to a cruelty at the level that is enough to make Japan's past look innocent. Yes, westerners hate Asian males that much and its an understatement.

I heard that the Germans are kinda ticked off today too, the part where Turkish males are marrying German females and converting to Islam is stirring up resentment amongst German males who are slowly becoming more nationalist.

Look at Mai-Lai massacre during the Vietnam war, Western men never went this far when they where in Europe. Then look at Guantanamo, Abu Gharib and Nicaragua. The nuke was never used in Europe. And that is barely touching the surface, infact in missed alltogether. No doubt, westerners probably have a militia even worse than unit 731 that is hidden from the public.

This is clearly a message from western males of how they view non-western males and that it is what they would do if a non-western male where to date a western women.

 

[Chidoriashi]

How does it not make sense? Western males make a big fuss about it when Asian males become friendly with western females.

Western males cannot bare the fact that non-western men can date western women. They will not allow it, period. They will fight tooth to nail to break western-women and non-western men relationship with everything including the kitchen sink and more. And that is barely scratching the surface of the depth of grudge western men has for Asian males dating western women.

Western males however, can take women from other ethnicity, all while keeping a (or multiple of) western mistress on the side and on demand, due to a superiority complex westerners have over their "lesser undesirables". Asian males are not allowed to say anything.

I'm sorry soykan but this is a bunch of ridiculous BS. Silly and sweeping generalizations. I'm really starting to think you are a troll, or sadly do not have good grip on reality.

 

[Jordan X Anthony]

When I'm in Japan, I find it rare to see inter-racial couples actually.

 

[CLCK]

Am new here,... great post,...

 

[Ashikaga]

Am new here,... great post,...

Which post are you referring to and what about that post made it great?

We would like to hear your opinion/view on the subject.

Welcome to the forum.

 

[Astroboy]

From my experience, the point is "Size Difference".

In general, men seek smaller-sized women, or the other way around.

 

[CLCK]

Which post are you referring to and what about that post made it great?
We would like to hear your opinion/view on the subject.
Welcome to the forum.

Ashikaga,... thank you for the reply,... and happy to be here,...actually I wanted to say that this is a great thread, very eye-opening, and some forummers here have given some great views from their end,..

On a personal side, I have dated British girls, Korean girls, Iranian girls, of course Chinese girls from everywhere,...there is a common factor among them,... being friendly and having great conversational skills plays a very important part. Of course, looks and dressing is important too.

I am a Malaysian Chinese,... not very tall, only 5'5,... but, perhaps,... the fact that I speak 4 languages carries a bit of weight here. I watch my dressing, and my manners closely when I go dating. I practise a thinking called : never try, never know,... so always try if we like something in life,... if it does not work out,... so be it.

Well,... that's what I think, could be wrong though,... by the way, I have just posted a new thread whereby I needed some advice with my Jap wife. Hoping somebody could help me out with some advice there,....

 

[Dogen Z]

Well,... that's what I think, could be wrong though,... by the way, I have just posted a new thread whereby I needed some advice with my Jap wife. Hoping somebody could help me out with some advice there,....

Well, first of all, don't call her Jap, you retard.

 

[CLCK]

Well, first of all, don't call her Jap, you retard.

Jap is just a short form,... if it means something bad, explain to me,... by the way, your short-sightedness ...caused some erroneous observations on your part. I'm fully-fit physically,..........

 

[Dogen Z]

Disingenous

Disingenous, insincere, and almost undoubtedly a shibai.

 

[CLCK]

Disingenous, insincere, and almost undoubtedly a shibai.

Yeah,... ditto to you too, try this last reply : retarded observation on your part too, don't say anything if you have nothing good to say, freako,... guessed only you know what's a shibai,... 'cos you are one,... i'm not, and thus I do not know,... i_diot !

 

[fria]

Ever since the introduction of big Scandinavian men during the colonial days, it seems it is slowly getting harder and harder even for Japanese males to get a girl.

There is always talk of how gorgeous this Asian-chick is but nobody even looks into the Asian-guy. Is it all a matter of wealth? What is the secret?

Also, I have very rarely hear that Japanese guys dating western girls but I instead I hear western guys dating Asian girls alot more often. Another issue rises that there are more Asian males then Asian females, added with a western competitor makes it near impossible to date asian females.

Opposite of western men, Western girls ( i.e. that blonde chick ), never dates Asian males for some reason. And to top off this problematic situation, Western girls hates Asians when her dream love is no longer interested in her, but will not even approach an asian male.

Some arrogant western guys even make a mockery of asian guys on the net by saying things like "a bigger thingy is more important than bigger brains" or something to that effect.

Why is it impossible, as an asian male to get a girl nowadays?? Why are western girls asexual to all ethnic guys except their own ethnic (preferably anglo and nordic)?? Is it some dominatrix persona they have, such as Eva Braun??

probably becasue western guys treat women as equals.. asian guys tend to treat women as inferiors.. perhaps asian guys need also to change in their perspective

 

[Astroboy]

Well...
I heard also western girls staying in Japan complaining that they could not get the attention they were expected from japanese males.

The reason is very simple. Probably from my point of view, it is likely that Western women look ether very big, or very tall, or well-muscled, or very manly, or physically strong, or similars. I don't say that western women are less attractive, but I would say they are not realistic.

Then Asian (non-Japanese) women ?
Because outspoken person is not well received in Japan, not realistic, either.

 

[1ntense]

...
Opposite of western men, Western girls ( i.e. that blonde chick ), never dates Asian males for some reason.....
Some arrogant western guys even make a mockery of asian guys on the net by saying things like "a bigger thingy is more important than bigger brains" or something to that effect.
.....
Why is it impossible, as an asian male to get a girl nowadays?? Why are western girls asexual to all ethnic guys except their own ethnic (preferably anglo and nordic)?? Is it some dominatrix persona they have, such as Eva Braun??

Ok, I have considered this issue many times in the past. The problem YOU are addressing is not concerning WESTERN WOMEN, rather CAUCASIAN women. You demonstrated that with your "anglo" comment. I personally believe the problem lies with the idolization of the "blonde, pale skinned, blue-eyed" woman. It's not just in asia, but it's still a predominate trait everywhere (though now in the West you might see it as "tan-skinned blondes" haha).

Putting anyone on a pedistal automatically gives them a right to be choosy ^_^ That's just how life works. I love Asian people in general, and happen to find Korean and Japanese men really attractive. I've recently discovered (in University) that Asian guys are attracted to me, but most are too shy to approach me, even for friendship. I think it's a sort of conditioning they are used to: "Western women will reject me." I really don't think that is true in most cases, but Western women are used to more "aggressive" forms of approach.......they like to be showered with compliments and often like a straight-foreward confession of "love" or attraction. I've noticed that most of my Asian friends aren't so "straight-foreward" and take their time with situations of the heart.

So, next time when considering this...maybe you just need to approach the GIRL a different way? It's a cultural difference, that's all. And as for "thingy" size.......Western men are jerks for even propegating stereotypes like that. That's one of the reasons I've noticed that Asian guys lack confidence. They are used to hearing B-S like that when it shouldn't affect their chances with a woman anyway =)

Anywho...
1. Don't assume Western women aren't interested
2. Be more straight-foreward
3. Your "thingy" doesn't even matter much
4. Blondes and Caucasians aren't the epitome of the West...we're diverse so diversify your qualifications of a Western girl

=p