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Why do so many foreigners marry Japanese women?

kirei_na_me said:
In fact, that is part of the problem. He makes me feel like property. Another one of his assets.
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My dear, you shouldn't feel offended. Take it as a compliment!
 
kirei_na_me said:
Definitely, and I'd say that this can also be applied to Japanese men. As a matter of fact, I think Japanese men are even more constipated.
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Note the word also in the sentence I wrote that you quoted?
 
kirei_na_me said:
In fact, that is part of the problem. He makes me feel like property. Another one of his assets.
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This is how I think most gaijiin males are with their Japanese wives. It is such a novel idea to them to be married to a foreigner. Then, after a bit of time, the novelty wears off for both parties...that is why I fear divorce is quite common as well.
 
kirei_na_me said:
What are you talking about? Chinese males are ashamed to go out in public with their caucasian wives? Or what? What is "A"? American ?
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C refers to Caucasian as replacement for W at RockLee's request,A is for Asian.
 
I think some Japanese women, including myself look super dorky compared to many of the Americans and Europeans.

My husband says that's why he married me.
 
misa.j said:
I think some Japanese women, including myself look super dorky compared to many of the Americans and Europeans.
My husband says that's why he married me.
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The only thing I ever noticed about some Japanese women that may be "dorky-looking" is that they walk pigeon-toed.
 
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RockLee said:
Hmm Ricecake...enough with the W- or white people ok? Just call us caucasians for crying out loud! I don't go refer to asians as yellow people I find the whole color-naming quite insulting.
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This post is my sincere apologies to anyone Caucasian I may have un-intentionally offended on the usage of " W or white ".

I never understood why Americans of European-descent refer themselves as by that color,it took me many years to get a hang of using that word.
 
CC1 said:
This is how I think most gaijiin males are with their Japanese wives. It is such a novel idea to them to be married to a foreigner.
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I can't belive you say this is how you think most gaijin males think, that their Japanese wives or girlfriends are simply a novelty to them... Maybe people come to find that their significant other is different than what they expected--- but since you started this thread you seem to infer that anyone gaijin who happens to be fond of Japanese women is simply following a trend, rather than their own emotions... is this what you are saying?

Not to mention the gaijin bars where Japanese women go to meet gajin men... I've heard more of gajin males being used as a status symbol than vice versa--- You seem to infer that the population of Japanese women need to be protected from the rising tide of invading gaijin. You sould a bit like someone else we all know on these forums.
 
In due respect to those who are discussing the question here, and their opinions and such, I don't think I should get involved, really, but the emotion to say something overwhelmed me at the moment--maybe cause it's morning, the sun is out, the coffee tastes especially good...whatever.....

I feel the OP question could have been worded much more precisely, but with titles, perhaps that is just the way it goes. I will share my feelings and perceptions regarding my personal history, in hopes that it may in some way provide a sample space from which others can provide theirs, and then we may be able to get a bit of some kind of picture. [and I do this all the while keeping Damacci's situation in mind. . . please understand my Tucson friend]

From birth, I am convienced, I had a propensity towards a certain type of look in women, which blossomed in highschool. As it turned out, that look was found more so in the build that comes most ususally in Asian women. (and I'm including some range of Indian here, as well as native American)

It is true, though perhaps it had not been so pronounced at the time, and I had not really been mature enough to have done so, that I vowed to myself around the age of 14 to never marry an American woman. I believe that meant to me at that time, the European based look more than anything else.
(I did have some American girlfriends after that but none so steady)

I was with a girl from Pakistan for a short while when in college, then Japanese. The reason for being with the Japanese girl was the physical attraction creating the impulse to form the connection, the building of friendship and a 'mating' parnership then, in turn, led to it being steady. [I mean, this is most usually how we sexes come together in bond anyway] It failed.

The girl I am with now was, as is so often used here, my type--very close to the girl who had been in my mind for so many years that I can remember. Alas, I am speaking of physical build, form, and activity--that includes posture (an important factor in the attraction element for me).

None of the other ideas presented in earlier posts, fit my case. I would not attempt to deny that some of those other ideas are present in the real world out there, but would neither say that they are the bulk of the 'why' matter in relationships that are between a female of Japanese nationality and genetics and a male of some (usually) Western nationality.

Some good posts have been made, I have enjoyed the read. I'll try to find some topic relatively soon too...if I can....
 
ricecake said:
This post is my sincere apologies to anyone Caucasian I may have un-intentionally offended on the usage of " W or white ".
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With the hopes that no one sees it as any attempt to boast, I have been told, on a number of occasions, that some seemingly strong sense of fairness in my aura had been really felt by those who told me so, and that if more were like that there would maybe be less mistrust in the world.

I greatly appreciate your apology, ricecake san, yet, to be honest, I was, and am never offended by such--or even worse (to a degree). I often recall the old chant that we childern growing up often used: Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

Thanks ricecake !!
 
Generally im not attracted to most Japanese girls. I don't want to sound offensive, racist or anything, because im not. But most of them (im not saying ALL) are flat chested and figure wise look like there about 12 years old... and thats just well... nevermind.

Mike Cash said:
You know, one of these days one of the admins is going to figure out what "I F Japanese girls NDB 4$" means and I hope they ban you so fast and so permanently it makes your head swim.
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No offence but LOL I couldn't help but laugh after reading that. Being the master of l33t speak that I am I could easily translate but dont want to get banned
 
ricecake said:
Good-looking outgoing personality hairy-chested masculine W-guys are most desired and taken by W-girls,no need for them sought attention from foreign women or go mate-shopping in Japan or Far East.
Hit the nail on the coffin.
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Not so sure about that. Personally I find that too many Northern European girls lack femininity. They usually want to behave like men, get the same jobs as men, do the same sports as men, be as strong (for authority) as men, wear too many jeans/trousers, etc. Japanese women tend to know better how to dress well and be sexy. Italian girls, and some French girls (maybe more in the South), are closer to the Japanese, but still not as feminine.

Usually opposites attract each others. When it comes to sex and sexual attraction, the hormonal levels of a man and woman should be diametrically opposite for the attraction to be optimal. So very masculine men tend to be attracted to very feminine women and vice versa, while effeminate men might prefer more masculine women. I read some researches about this. Of course it is not always true (and hormonal levels reflect more on sexiness than beauty), but on the whole there is some truth in it.

But I have to say that Japan is not the country where women are the most beautiful in average. Indeed I would rank it after most many Western countries. Japan only tops the list for cuteness and sexiness. The hard thing is to find a truly beautiful Japanese woman, but they usually end up becoming celebrities. I guess I was lucky to find my wife, as in 4 years in Tokyo I have rarely seen somebody as beautiful as her in the street, and indeed few I would have dated, had I been single. But I am exigent for everything, and beauty is not an exception.
 
Tokyo is not known for having the most beautiful women anyway. Thanks for your post and opinions.
 
ArmandV said:
The only thing I ever noticed about some Japanese women that may be "dorky-looking" is that they walk pidgeon-toed.
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Yes, pigeon-toed, you're absolutely right! There are so many young girls who don't know how to walk...
Because they didn't play outdoors in their childhood (lack of physical strength)? Wearing too high heels or too small shoes?
 


On Asia continent,many northern East Asian males are tall and physically strong built,less hairy than Caucasian counterpart though.

This is only true for Japanese men as they're esteemed in the society at the expense of their women-folk,the other 2 East Asian nationalities ( lesser extent for Korean males ) are more respectful of their women as equals and share house chores is quite common plus take responsibility of child rearing.
 
I didn't notice the pigeon toed so much as just being plain bow legged!
 
Maciamo said:
They usually want to behave like men, get the same jobs as men, do the same sports as men, be as strong (for authority) as men, wear too many jeans/trousers,etc.

Japan only tops the list for cuteness.
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Exactly,this is what intimidates some Caucasian men.

Totally AGREE.
 

When you have time to apology, just show the data.
Before 1975,nearly all Japanese women ( and other Oriental females in Pacific Rim ) married to " foreigner " males were in the sex industry.
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I love them big-breasted blue-eyed German hens, and a super sexy Honduran ooman just curls my toes. American split-tails with them American thighs are very pleasing to the eyes, but can be so demanding. And there ain't much sexier than a sweet oriental babe, but I don't know ANY of them that are truely "subserviant!"
 
I remember I laughed at some ethnic jokes about Japanese women in Bridget Jones's Diary.
But marriages between British men and Japanese women have not increased much, just stayed same, about 200 couples/a year, and it is the same between American & Japanese, about 1000-1500 couples/a year last 30 yrs.

But the category, "other nationalities", has increased from 286 to 2239.
Statistic, but only in Japanese as always...

There were no playstation or MUJI in the UK 30 yrs ago, or fewer Brit teachers here, (just my image, for I don't know eikaiwa schools), so it was just the image or metaphor on Japan or Japanese stuffs in the movie.
 
ricecake said:
Good-looking outgoing personality hairy-chested masculine W-guys are most desired and taken by W-girls,no need for them sought attention from foreign women or go mate-shopping in Japan or Far East.
Hit the nail on the coffin.
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Astounding. Your sterotyped racial repugnancy knows no bounds.
 
CC1 said:
Tokyo is not known for having the most beautiful women anyway.
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As someone who spends waaaay too many hours each and every week crawling along through Tokyo traffic at the same time a very large number of women are abroad on the sidewalks, I would have to respectfully disagree.
 
CC1 said:
Tokyo is not known for having the most beautiful women anyway. Thanks for your post and opinions.
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Unless I was seeing mirages when in Tokyo, I thought the women there were gorgeous.
 
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