Contact these guys:
RLSO Japan | U.S. Navy JAG Corps
Tell them your story. You may or may not need to engage a local attorney to file suit against him. If there are legal actions pending, he will be placed on "legal hold" and not allowed to transfer or leave the country until it is resolved. (My ship sometimes lost guys who got held in the Philippines after bar girls filed charges for not marrying them after the guys said "I love you").
Contact these guys:
RLSO Japan | U.S. Navy JAG Corps
Tell them your story. You may or may not need to engage a local attorney to file suit against him. If there are legal actions pending, he will be placed on "legal hold" and not allowed to transfer or leave the country until it is resolved. (My ship sometimes lost guys who got held in the Philippines after bar girls filed charges for not marrying them after the guys said "I love you").
I would try contacting the base chaplain as a start , they deal with issues like this. If you pursue the issue , they will probably ask for a DNA test for proof of fatherhood. He will probably claim you tricked him by saying you were on birth control. If he has been transferred to another base or discharged from the Navy , it may be more difficult to solve. Good luck.[/QUOTE
How do you know, did you ask them?The Embassy would just tell her to contact the military.
How do you know, did you ask them?
If nothing else I would think they would point her to resources such as these.
I didn't make a definitive statement about it. You did.Sure....just like you asked them if they could do anything for her before you suggested it.
I don't know and no.Which one of those would you say is most pertinent to her situation? Did you unearth an answer to her question from among those links?
Because as I pointed out, they most certainly have encountered this question before and probably have a standard answer about it. (Possibly "this is a SOFA matter, find a lawyer.") And because they have some helpful links to legal resources on their web page.I can't understand why you think the Embassy would be helpful.
No, I did not imagine or think any of these things.Do you imagine that they are in the chain of command over DoD personnel? Or that they have judicial powers to compel the guy to admit paternity? Or to bring suit in a Japanese court on her behalf?
Because as I pointed out, they most certainly have encountered this question before and probably have a standard answer about it. (Possibly "this is a SOFA matter, find a lawyer.") And because they have some helpful links to legal resources on their web page.
What hassle? Certainly she can make a phone call. I already stated my opinion which is that the Embassy has most certainly handled this question before and that they may have some helpful information for her. They may very well have nothing helpful to say. No way to tell without asking.So you are of the opinion that the Embassy would do nothing for her except tell her they can do nothing for her and that needs a lawyer...but she should go through all the hassle that accompanies trying to do anything at the U.S. Embassy anyway because they would point her to webpages? Probably give her a nice printout from Let Me Google That For You on official embassy letterhead stationary.
I never suggested making a trip to Tokyo. It didn't even occur to me since she already said she wasn't up for travel. The logical thing to do would be to call or email them.If you did not imagine or think of any way in which the Embassy could actually do anything useful toward resolving her problem beyond doing her Google searches for her then it was a rather useless "pass-the-buck " suggestion to make. Somewhat worse than useless, actually, since it would involve the time, expense, and discomfort of a very pregnant woman in Saitama making a trip to Tokyo and back just to be pointed to the internet anyway.
I saw the links on family law and lawyers and took a peek on the family law and attorney pages. That was enough for me to think the Embassy has some helpful info (links) at least. I didn't notice until just now but there's also a link to this legal assistance center. You were the one telling her to get lawyer. I'm surprised you wouldn't think these pages are helpful.Which link to legal resources on their webpage did you find contained pertinent information? I don't know if you actually readv any of that list of links or any of the pages the links redirect to. I gave it a quick try and carne up empty-handed. If there were something in there actually useful to her situation and you had actually gone through the links checking for it, I imagine you would have pointed her directly to the useful information you found.
I'm not sure. Certainly not lately.Have you ever tried calling the embassy?
She is asking questions in English on an English web site. All of those links are for Japanese attorneys in Japan. Obviously they can work in Japanese. Those attorneys probably have more experience dealing with international matters than a random lawyer she may find in her neighborhood.I'm surprised you think a Japanese woman needs a page linking to pages of information in English when all she needs to do is contact a local Japanese attorney. She has to sue the guy in a Japanese court.
I'm not sure. Certainly not lately.
She is asking questions in English on an English web site. All of those links are for Japanese attorneys in Japan. Obviously they can work in Japanese. Those attorneys probably have more experience dealing with international matters than a random lawyer she may find in her neighborhood.
Good morning... Thank you very much.. And no I'm not Japanese ..