Maybe it's me

[Damicci]

.....but I am noticing not this forum but others too. That people like to remind others that they have a Japanese significant other. That's great and I am glad you do, but do you need to throw it in every chance you get.

It could be from mentioning their name like (Ex. why are you happy thread [this is an example])"I just saw "nanako" today I r teh happy!"
or simply "I'll have to ask my Japanese blah blah partner about this"

Doesn't just a simple "I saw the gf today yeah!" or "I'll ask the SO(significant other) what they think" be enough.

Just something I been biting my tongue about. Maybe I am bitter.

Now general questions about Dating japanese I understand as usually that will have some reference on what you do and don't do. But I wonder if this is intentionally done or some people just don't realize it.

I try to stay cautious if I come off that way. I would think most people don't want here all the time, "I have a Japanese SO YEAH!". ☝

 

[DoctorP]

For that matter it seems that there is quite a bit of I have lived in Japan for _____ # of years, so I know everything. Hell, I've lived here a long time and still don't know enough, so your 3 years doesn't mean **** to me anyway!

But I definitely see your point. Just people bragging I guess?

 

[ArmandV]

While some may be bragging, others probably mention a Japanese GF or BF as a point of reference. I don't think it is anything to be all that bothered about. More power to 'em, I say.

Damicci, you have a Japanese GF whom you've written a lot about and asked for opinions on (dealing with her parents, etc.). Your experience and others (who have provided advice) can only educate others who may find themselves in situations like yours.

You mentioned being "bitter." Has your situation "gone south?"

 

[kirei_na_me]

For me, although I don't like to bring it up much, it's just to indicate that I've had experience with the Japanese. I don't want people to think I'm just a big know-it-all without having any connection to the Japanese at all.

To me, it's not bragging at all. Believe me, I would not brag about having a Japanese spouse, especially mine...

 

[yukio_michael]

I don't notice it too much. I more often notice cerain people, and this really only goes for men, who like to take pictures of themselves posing with Japanese girls as a sort of "LOOK AT ME" thing... It's as if they were trying to prove their right to inclusion on an English form about Japan by showing that THEY TOO know Japanese girls... sigh... children.

As for myself, I don't really like to talk about my life too much on the internet--- I've mentioned my gf a few times in context of things that have happened to me, but I don't mention her much other than that.

 

[ArmandV]

To me, it's not bragging at all. Believe me, I would not brag about having a Japanese spouse, especially mine...

Ouch!

Is it "let's dump on our J-partner time?"

 

[yukio_michael]

While we're at it, can we all stop using the prefix "J" for everything related to the Japanese...

I went to a J-Restaraunt yesterday and had some J-food with my J-griflriend, we went home and watched a J-movie, and then went to J-Sleep on our J-futon.

 

[ArmandV]

While we're at it, can we all stop using the prefix "J" for everything related to the Japanese...

I went to a J-Restaraunt yesterday and had some J-food with my J-griflriend, we went home and watched a J-movie, and then went to J-Sleep on our J-futon.

Do you live in an "A-frame?" Actually, I rarely use "J-isms."

 

[Elizabeth]

While some may be bragging, others probably mention a Japanese GF or BF as a point of reference. I don't think it is anything to be all that bothered about. More power to 'em, I say.
Damicci, you have a Japanese GF whom you've written a lot about and asked for opinions on (dealing with her parents, etc.). Your experience and others (who have provided advice) can only educate others who may find themselves in situations like yours.
You mentioned being "bitter." Has your situation "gone south?"

I don't like to talk about it so much anymore as I've become less and less satisfied with my personal situation. Everyone has their ups and downs, though. The real feelings are always more complicated than what that person chooses to disclose on a forum.

 

[ArmandV]

I don't like to talk about it so much anymore as I've become less and less satisfied with my personal situation. Everyone has their ups and downs, though. The real feelings are always more complicated than what that person chooses to disclose on a forum.

True. I've been in the doldrums of late. All I can say, "hang in there!" Things will get better sooner or later, one way or another.

 

[Mike Cash]

While we're at it, can we all stop using the prefix "J" for everything related to the Japanese...

I do it to mock the terms I find ridiculous, like J-Rock/J-Pop, etc.

 

[Damicci]

I had that thread made about j-this and that especial j-girls. I hate the terms too.

As for my relationship, it's fine. Just coming close to d-day, 5 weeks left. I only say "maybe I am bitter" because I haven't seen my gf in 5 months come october. Also when there are so many couple things you would like to do but can't due to things out of your control....it sucks and, can make a person bitter.

I do think that some people spend too much time blaring about what Japanese male/ female they hung out with or are sleeping with. Some people care majority don't.

Elizabeth & Kirei,
Sorry to hear about things for you guys and I hope they get better.

 

[ArmandV]

I had that thread made about j-this and that especial j-girls. I hate the terms too.

As for my relationship, it's fine. Just coming close to d-day, 5 weeks left. I only say "maybe I am bitter" because I haven't seen my gf in 5 months come october.

Some people prefer to use J-this, J-that because it's easier than to constantly write "Japanese."

Glad to hear all's well. Don't be bitter, you have something to look forward to!

 

[nice gaijin]

Just to check, I went back and did a search for posts where I used the word "girlfriend." A bit less than half of the hits (6 or so) from earlier this year or before were in reference to my own, and with one or two exceptions, all were just to report her response to the OP's question about Japan or kanji, etc.

I'm not terribly eager to share all of my personal life with everyone, otherwise you'd all probably know that by this time next week I'll be studying in Tokyo...

 

[Grandpa Frank]

A little secret......

my wife and I drive "J"-cars(his & hers Subarus).

Uncle Frank

 

[Damicci]

I did the search to and i have used Rieko's name a few times, mostly used girlfriend. Alot of my post were related to Japanese topics too.

Frank your J-silly O_O

 

[yukio_michael]

I do it to mock the terms I find ridiculous, like J-Rock/J-Pop, etc.

It always reminds me of a Joke that John Stewart made about Chinese food, or as he said the Chinese called it, food.

 

[Iron Chef]

I keep my personal life my own--personal. You will never find me posting about relationship woes, who i've been dating, etc. here or anwhere else. Always nice to read about other people's misadventures though.

 

[Flashjeff]

Well, I haven't any relationship woes, or successes for that matter. But hey, if folks like to boast or brag, more power to 'em. It's no big deal to me.

 

[Duo]

To me, though some people may feel very satisfied saying it, boasting about a japanese significant other doesn't sound like something so special. So they can go on boasting as much as they want but they should probaply know that the majority here are not envious or anything.

 

[Mars Man]

My friend from the stout, desert sun-filled plain upon which Tuscon, rising like a mirage in the heat, stands--I feel for you, and my heart goes out to you.

Please hang in there, and keep focused on the long-run !! I'm cheering for you !! MM

 

[Elizabeth]

I had that thread made about j-this and that especial j-girls. I hate the terms too.
As for my relationship, it's fine. Just coming close to d-day, 5 weeks left. I only say "maybe I am bitter" because I haven't seen my gf in 5 months come october. Also when there are so many couple things you would like to do but can't due to things out of your control....it sucks and, can make a person bitter.
I do think that some people spend too much time blaring about what Japanese male/ female they hung out with or are sleeping with. Some people care majority don't.
Elizabeth & Kirei,
Sorry to hear about things for you guys and I hope they get better.

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[-Rudel-]

I don't know about you guys, but I'm very proud to be with my wife and love talking about here. She amazes me so much...

But if there is a Japanese cultural question that I know I can't answer, I can always go to her for advise as she is a Japan national, who has the experience I don't have. The how toos, and don't.

If there is something to complain about, it should be some of these threads like, change your profile, Something good happened to me today, something bad happend to me....I don't post often because of threads like these...

So instead, I go to other forums I that interest me.