Taiko666 said:
I've never subscribed to the view that, as a foreigner, one must never complain about any aspect of Japanese life. Of course, one should endeavour to avoid offending people... that's why if you have a gripe, letting off steam on JREF is better than possibly upsetting your Japanese family/friends/colleagues.
I quite agree with you Taiko666 as I often had my own complaints about Japan and we all know we can come up with many. Perhaps I used the wrong word (whining) and over reacted a bit as I have had my fill of complaints from foreigners while I lived in Japan who were constantly putting down the Japanese and their culture because it didn't fit with their view of their world. Heck, most didn't even take the time to learn the language or culture.
My point is that when it becomes whining about Japan and the culture (as many a foreigner tend to do) and demanding that they change their ways to suit our ways or what we are comfortable with is where I have a problem.
My view always has been, and will always remain that, if one desires to live in a foreign country, one accepts that country and culture for what it is or else go back home. I'm sorry if this rubs some the wrong way, but it is how I've always felt and, even though I may not agree with everything about Japan, I accept Japan and the Japanese for the way they are and in all my years I never really encountered any obstacle that I could not overcome including their toilets and being turned down for an apartment.
For example, when I visit a foreign country I want to experience it as a native would, and not be treated as a westerner and made to feel like I was home. If I felt that way then why even visit a foreign county? Why not just "visit" it in video on YouTube or on TV or in a restaurant in your own country? Then I would not feel uncomfortable because there was not a "western" toilet in my hotel room.
Further, when I first encountered a Japanese toilet I was thrilled because, even though I was a little uncomfortable with it (and never really got used to it in the long run), I was experiencing the real Japan. Not a glossed over western version.
The same went for my first apartment. I felt I was living as a Japanese would with the toilet in my apartment. I did not hold out for a western toilet as a few of my aquaintances did. Even though they paid more for their place, they never truly experienced life as a Japanese would as some even bought a bed and a table and chairs and some even bought a sofa!
Me? I slept on a futon, sat at a kotatsu, and squatted and was extremely satisfied with my experience.