Having a sister who never married her partner and seeing the devotion with which they look after and advocate for their severely disabled daughter with a barrelled surname, I think you're overstating the influence of names, and I'd prefer a more relaxed and flexible system to accommodate the relatively small number of people who want to be a bit different.My opinion is that it is probably a good idea to keep this rule. If there are any kids it allows there to be a clear source for their family name and to avoid situations like we have in the US of the many hyphenated family names. I also think it lessens family ties to have kids that only share a family name with one of their parents.
Keep in mind also that the husband can take the wife's family name legally. It may not be done often but is legally possible.
By "barrelled" I'm guessing you mean hyphenated? If so, then she actually shares a family name with both. Its more of an annoyance everytime you have to write it on a form or use it to login at work. Anyway, I wasn't indicating that it would magically mean that there was less emotional attachment.Having a sister who never married her partner and seeing the devotion with which they look after and advocate for their severely disabled daughter with a barrelled surname, I think you're overstating the influence of names, and I'd prefer a more relaxed and flexible system to accommodate the relatively small number of people who want to be a bit different.
However, I liked your post - you nicely put the case for keeping the system the same without sounding like an LDP bigot - the social system would collapse!
That sounds discriminatory. What if your name is Awwad Ibrahim Ali al-Badri al-Samarra and you want to get your German citizenship?I'm not aware of the laws in the US and UK, but surnames are restricted to one hyphen in German-speaking countries.
I'm guessing you mean hyphenated? If so, then she actually shares a family name with both.
That could come in handy for genealogical purposes. I can't trace my own back more than 3 or 4 generations.I know a lady from Mexico who has 64 last names. Really!
Sorry, meant to say double-barrelled, which is commonly used in UK English for hyphenated with names. Traditionally it was mainly the very posh had such names - check out the politician Jacob Rees-Mogg if you want to be amused and horrified - but they are becoming more common now because of people like my sister and partner, who are not posh!By "barrelled" I'm guessing you mean hyphenated? If so, then she actually shares a family name with both. Its more of an annoyance everytime you have to write it on a form or use it to login at work. Anyway, I wasn't indicating that it would magically mean that there was less emotional attachment.
As an aside, I have run into people with names like "Kimberly Anderson-Wesley-Barrington-Jones", can you imagine having to write that on a bunch of government forms?
We've been thinking, and we'll probably give our daughter a hyphenated name for her US passport, as we think it's an elegant enough way to show her bicultural heritage. (Of course, when she gets old enough and if she chooses to live in the US or some other English-speaking country, she can decide for herself what she wants to do with it.) Here in Japan, she'll just have her mom's name, because I'm convinced that the hassle of dealing with a hybrid katakana/kanji last name that will inevitably be incompatible will all sorts of paperwork and automated applications would be far worse than whatever symbolic benefit would be gained.
Okayama to adopt opinion paper opposing dual surnames
The proposed written opinion, spearheaded by a group of prefectural assembly members of the Liberal Democratic Party, says a system that allows married couples to use separate surnames could undermine the bond and unity of the family. It also argues that such a system would lead to parents and their children using different surnames, causing "irreversible" psychological damage to the children. [...] The written opinion, however, warns that hastily changing the system could pose serious problems for the future of the country.
That's a bit harsh, don't you think?I have decided to never visit Okayama.
Or an offensive statement by a liberal one.because of an offensive statement issued by a conservative governor or group of state senators?