Stradini
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- 29 Apr 2002
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A little history first of all:
・I've fallen in love with a japanese woman.
・I live in the US (Arizona) and She lives in Saitama.
・She's coming to visit me for several months.
・I've met her parents (informally) - stayed at their house for a few days during my last trip (as a guest of my friend, her brother)
・Her skill with english is equivalent to my skill with japanese - that is to say, not very, but between the two of us and with a little help from my kodansha dictionary, we can muddle out a fairly meaningful conversation given ~4 times the usual amount of time for it.
・Her parents also speak no english.
Now, I'm not a close enough friend with my friend for him to trust me with his sister, and I don't trust him enough to provide accurate translations for...
The big question I have is, without hesitation, if she wanted, I would marry her (I plan to ask one of these days, but we both ought to have a little more time to learn about each other...guess that throws "without hesitation" out the window.)
But honestly, when I met her there was an almost transcendental connection between us...very hard for me to put it into words, so I won't really try...anything I said couldn't accurately reflect what I feel anyway.
Judging from our conversations and the way we are around each other it seems she feels similarly.
So..the real question posed by the above statements is, considering she's a traditional japanese woman from a fairly traditional family, what are the protocols for asking her to wed? Tips about formal meetings with her in-laws, ways talking to her about the marriage, and the general order with which I should perform these steps would be most helpful.
And the questions and answers of any questions some of you who have been in similar situations wish that you would've asked someone. It would also be nice to hear a woman's point of view.
I'd ask my friend, but I know he isn't too keen on the idea of me and his sister being together...which presents something of another problem.
Any help will be appreciated.
Thank you.
(note to moderators: please move this to a more appropriate thread if you feel it might be beneficial.)
・I've fallen in love with a japanese woman.
・I live in the US (Arizona) and She lives in Saitama.
・She's coming to visit me for several months.
・I've met her parents (informally) - stayed at their house for a few days during my last trip (as a guest of my friend, her brother)
・Her skill with english is equivalent to my skill with japanese - that is to say, not very, but between the two of us and with a little help from my kodansha dictionary, we can muddle out a fairly meaningful conversation given ~4 times the usual amount of time for it.
・Her parents also speak no english.
Now, I'm not a close enough friend with my friend for him to trust me with his sister, and I don't trust him enough to provide accurate translations for...
The big question I have is, without hesitation, if she wanted, I would marry her (I plan to ask one of these days, but we both ought to have a little more time to learn about each other...guess that throws "without hesitation" out the window.)
But honestly, when I met her there was an almost transcendental connection between us...very hard for me to put it into words, so I won't really try...anything I said couldn't accurately reflect what I feel anyway.
Judging from our conversations and the way we are around each other it seems she feels similarly.
So..the real question posed by the above statements is, considering she's a traditional japanese woman from a fairly traditional family, what are the protocols for asking her to wed? Tips about formal meetings with her in-laws, ways talking to her about the marriage, and the general order with which I should perform these steps would be most helpful.
And the questions and answers of any questions some of you who have been in similar situations wish that you would've asked someone. It would also be nice to hear a woman's point of view.
I'd ask my friend, but I know he isn't too keen on the idea of me and his sister being together...which presents something of another problem.
Any help will be appreciated.
Thank you.
(note to moderators: please move this to a more appropriate thread if you feel it might be beneficial.)
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