how to forget j guy who not interested in me?

[ccg]

this j guy i think misunderstood me as someone with harmful intentions towards him though i hadn't done anything harmful to him.but i think he's also not attracted or interested in me that's why he's not flattered by the attention from me.i've never go up to him n tell him i like him face to face,but i trust what i see(his espressions on his face etc) n i don't think he's attracted to me.
i tend to take it badly when a guy i like does not share the same feelings for me.i'd feel i'm the least attractive girl in the world.so any cure?

 

[Mal]

Recovery Plan:

1) Lazy clothes.
2) Ice Cream.
3) Beer? Wine?
4) Romantic Movie
5) Crying
6) Find new guy to lust after

Repeat if necessary

 

[Index]

Don't give up. You can turn him around. Make him yours. GO!

 

[lexico]

this j guy i think misunderstood me as someone with harmful intentions towards him though i hadn't done anything harmful to him.but i think he's also not attracted or interested in me that's why he's not flattered by the attention from me.i've never go up to him n tell him i like him face to face, but i trust what i see (his espressions on his face etc) n i don't think he's attracted to me.

There's only one way finding out. Face him, and confess everything. Either he will tell you the dreadful truth, or you will have him to worship you for the rest of your life. (Unless you guys decide to break up, of course.) Would you rather live in doubt ? That's very draining and a total waste of you short life on earth unless you're into self-induced toture or perpetual whining.

i tend to take it badly when a guy i like does not share the same feelings for me.

We all do, luv ! Is that a surprise ?

i'd feel i'm the least attractive girl in the world. so any cure?

The Romans already concocted a good prescription for that.

1) Diversify.
2) Diversify.
3) Diversify.

Unless you're extremely picky, there should be at least a hundred, mostly likely in the order of thousands in your age group in Taipei, that should find you extremely attractive and would rather die than not have you for the girlfirend of their lives. Seek out and alway have a couple on reserve. I'm betraying my male comrades, but since you are in pain, I can relay the facts and not feel guilty about it. Invest a little time and effort into this. It is a skill that can be learned and cultivated. A lot of young people are under the false impression that love is like an apple growing on its own for the pick. No way. If you've been to an orchard, you'll understand how much hard work goes into it. Apples, oragnes, & humans. You can still remian human, as long as you don't kill people. So good luck !

 

[cicatriz esp]

Don't give up. You can turn him around. Make him yours. GO!

Oh man. This can sometimes be the worst advice to give a girl or young lady. If a man doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. Usually it's the women you can change.

 

[Index]

Oh man. This can sometimes be the worst advice to give a girl or young lady. If a man doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. Usually it's the women you can change.

Just another alternative; there are many.

 

[kirei_na_me]

Oh man. This can sometimes be the worst advice to give a girl or young lady. If a man doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. Usually it's the women you can change.

Definitely agree. No guy wants a stalker-ish person. That can be a complete turn-off.

Just the opposite might work. Play it cool, don't even talk to him or get around him. If he likes you, he'll approach you. If he doesn't, find someone else, because he's not interested.

 

[Mal]

Definitely agree. No guy wants a stalker-ish person. That can be a complete turn-off.

Or even worse, he will take advantage of your feelings and then toss you aside afterwards.

Just the opposite might work. Play it cool, don't even talk to him or get around him. If he likes you, he'll approach you. If he doesn't, find someone else, because he's not interested.

More or less.

Frankly, I agree with Lexico - There are a ton of people out there who want to go out with you. You just need to find one, thats all. Worst thing anyone can do is fixate on a bad or go nowhere relationship when there may be someone right around the corner that is going to love you for life.

 

[dreamer]

Just the opposite might work. Play it cool, don't even talk to him or get around him. If he likes you, he'll approach you

Actually I've nevre seen it work...
This kind of behaviour tends to make the guy lose his self confidence if he has some feelings for you...

However I'd say go find another one. It shouldn't be hard, there are so many guys out there...

 

[kirei_na_me]

Actually I've nevre seen it work...
This kind of behaviour tends to make the guy lose his self confidence if he has some feelings for you...

Depends on the situation, and in this particular situation, I think it'd be the best thing to do. Otherwise, he'll feel like he's being stalked. I was just trying to put the fact, that he might be feeling smothered, lightly. I didn't want to just come out and say that she should just leave him alone.

I think most of us would agree that she should probably move on to someone else.

 

[Brooker]

Don't throw yourself at the guy. He may decide that, although he's not interested, he doesn't want to pass on readily availbable sex, and afterwards, he's gone and you feel even worse. And having such a physical relationship won't make him like you more, only respect you less. Tellin' it like it is.

 

[MajideSaiaku]

i tend to take it badly when a guy i like does not share the same feelings for me.i'd feel i'm the least attractive girl in the world.so any cure?

just emagine theres a guy who likes you but you dont like him, is it your fault you dont feel the same for him as he feels for you?

what im getting at is you shouldnt worry or feel so bad if a guy doesnt like you back, i know its hurts but, its not really his fault, or your fault, its simply a case that he doesnt feel the same.

my advice is let it go, enjoy the company of your friends and your hobbies/interests and move on, i get the impression he really isnt niterested, and in that situation you just gotta move on.

 

[ccg]

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i didn't really stalked.i've no ill intentions.(anyway,i don't feel negative towards HARMELSS stalking,i mean,not like those celebs cases)
i've a huge ego.i rather not have a guy not throw myself at one.even if we're not possible,i wanted to see him.just went to see him,it make my day.dont know how he feels,unless he see this "stalk" as a kind of harrassment.did i looked like i threw myself at him?i didn't smile at him or dress sexily etc. i don't want him to think i'ma cheap gal,but well,since i didn't go speak to him or explain

 

[Ma Cherie]

My dear the best to forget a guy who is not interested in you is to pamper yourself, buy yourself a beautiful necklice, treat yourself to some fine wine and chocolate. Findout who you are and love yourself, that's the only way others will love you. All that stuff that I said do is what I would do. My dear, judging from your recent post, and I mean this in the most respectable way possible, but you seem to have some of issues with relationships.

 

[ccg]

i'm the one who like him first .if he didn't approach me,it mean he totally not interested?cos he's the passive type,doesn't like attention or talk much.i like him like this.he wants to run away from the attention more than he will respond to me.we're bit alike in sense i'm pretty quiet etc too(quiet does not equal boring).but i like him.if i didn't go see him,i feel i can die hahahaha.i didn't mean to become a "stalker".
but he's not the type who will sleep around.trust me.

nurizeko,i know it's not his fault if he doesn't feel the same for me.just it hurts.

i won't see him anymore.but i still like him HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

i won't see him again.but i still like him

 

[ccg]

ma cherie, i don't think it's that serious like u think of me.it's not easy to forget someone u like.everyone will ALWAYS have problems in relationships.human relationships r the hardest.
i'd like to ask u instead,no anger feelings here,but what about u?are u very good n decisive in handling matters n problems?

 

[lexico]

Here's a wild suggestion.

Do something crazy and get it over with.
I say this because it's obvious you are suffering. I suggest you do the following.

1. Approach him, and stalk him as best you can.
2. Either he responds positively or
3. He will confront you (or sheepishly run away/call police)
4. You can either get him by force, or get so mad at yourself that you find the strenght to move on.

Conclusion: Follow my adivice and you shall be saved from the agony or regret.
Good luck. Just don't use a gun/knife/pick/explosives/or hurt yourself in thge process !!

Edit: Do not rape him. It is a seriuos crime !!

 

[ccg]

well Mal, romantic movie makes me feel worse.hahaha
ice-cream n wine good.

 

[Ma Cherie]

ma cherie, i don't think it's that serious like u think of me.it's not easy to forget someone u like.everyone will ALWAYS have problems in relationships.human relationships r the hardest.
i'd like to ask u instead,no anger feelings here,but what about u?are u very good n decisive in handling matters n problems?

My dear, yes it difficult to forget about someone you like. And ofcourse people will always have problems in relationships. And I'll be honest with you, from the choices I've made in handling problems and matters, I would have to say I've done fairly well. (Up to this point at least). May I ask you, what do you want in a guy? I'm sure you have certain desires, no?

 

[ccg]

well ma cherie,u probably more decisive in handlin matters than me but that is not to say u are more knowledgeable in feelings or undertsand life better than me.like a matter may rate high with u but i could be the opp.of u in that matter.like if i did not choose the solution u gave,it's not because i'm ignorant or being stubborn.
it's not worht it continue thinking of the guy who doesn't feel for u,but i'm not the sort who can forget almost immediaelt or find a new one very soon n feel bubbly.
that guy is not a jerk or anything like that.i hadn't work hard enough for him to have a chance to know me more,otherwise it's possible he could develop positive feelings for me even if we do not end up as lovers.still,i don't feel it's wrong to still like that person even if we can't be together.
what do i look for in a guy?i can't answer thsis question,but wheh i like someone,i know i reallt like him n what i like him,not fantasy or anyone's influence

 

[phantasmagoria]

it's not easy to forget someone u like.everyone will ALWAYS have problems in relationships.human relationships r the hardest.QUOTE]

Very true. I've liked the same guy since last summer (he knows it, and we're still best friends), been out with other people and still not got over him...

My best advice is... Don't try and get over him, it just seems to make it worse. Let your feelings run their course and eventually you'll be over it... The thing abot how many people are out there... It's true, there's, what, 6 billion people in the world? There's gonna be someone out there for you hun, but until you find them, you're just gonna have to cope like the rest of us.