Divorce rate soon to jump

[Crackpot]

..which happens to be an excellent place for a divorce...

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marriage before arriving in Tahiti might be advised unless the customs have changed.

 

[DoctorP]

It was merely a joke people...Kirei wouldn't have anything to do with the likes of me! I could only hope for someone that nice!

Now...back on topic!

 

[Mars Man]

Mars Man, as I understand it 窶ｰﾅ (oku) implies the heart of the family, rather than being stuck in the back room. If only the men would take a little more time to understand how things tick in the heart, then perhaps we wouldn't be facing this 'crisis'.

Regarding the Japanese, you could be correct on that, however I have heard from Japanese sources, that it is as I have stated.

I do agree that trying hard to understand the basics of the two sexes is important in relationships; of course that subject has come up before.

I'm still listening in.

 

[pipokun]

If I were a J woman, I'd never renounce my most fundamental right to control our household income, no matter where he comes from.

 

[ArmandV]

This is not news to me. A couple of years ago, one of our tour guides (Japanese lady) told us that J-women build their own social lives while hubby is at work. When hubby retires, he is now hanging around home and the wife's lifestyle is crimped. So she would file for divorce rather than having to hang around with the old boy.

It might be a good idea for hubby to have a hobby or something to keep him busy so that wifey can have her space. Either that, or they should both have some sort of mutual interest in something that they can both pursue together.

 

[pipokun]

Wow! there is certainly a danger in jumping to conclusions. Thank you for putting that straight Pipokun and surprising at least me. Can you reveal your source?
I am now thinking that most of the Jmen & foreign women couples reside abroad and few in Japan.

Forgot posting the source.

 

[Mike Cash]

If I were a J woman, I'd never renounce my most fundamental right to control our household income, no matter where he comes from.

That old chestnut about Japanese women being wonderful at controlling the household finances is purely a load of crap too.

 

[Mike Cash]

I think so too.

I've seen plenty of Japanese women in action, so I know how they are. Spending all the money, while cackling and laughing about how they don't care if their husbands are gone or not, just as long as they keep bringing in that money. I think its pretty awful.

Hence my earlier mention of the common expression 窶凖樞?堙≫?堋ｽ窶ｹ窶ｺ窶堙家竪ﾆ探窶堙ｰ窶堙｢窶堙ｧ窶堙遺?堋｢ (You don't keep on giving bait to fish you've already caught). I should have also mentioned a more common expression as applies to husbands: 窶凖?ﾅｽﾃ･窶堙最陳ｳ窶ｹC窶堙??板ｯﾅｽﾃｧ窶堋ｪ窶堋｢窶堋｢ (Husbands should be healthy and away from home).

 

[Mars Man]

Interesting Mike. Yes, the second (newer) one I've heard--the other one was new to me.

 

[kirei_na_me]

It was merely a joke people...Kirei wouldn't have anything to do with the likes of me! I could only hope for someone that nice!
Now...back on topic!

You mean the Tahiti trip is off?!

 

[DoctorP]

You mean the Tahiti trip is off?!

shhhh! I just didn't want others tagging along!

 

[MajideSaiaku]

Awww...

 

[Mike Cash]

Interesting Mike. Yes, the second (newer) one I've heard--the other one was new to me.

Interestingly, though, even though Japanese husbands often get treated like one, they don't use the word ﾂ食ﾅｽ窶毒停? (meal ticket) to refer to them. Terms like 窶脇窶佚･窶堋ｲ窶堙 (large item of trash)ﾂ and ﾆ担ﾆ鱈ﾆ置ﾆ椎?窶凖?ﾅｽﾃ･ (cockroach husband)ﾂ do exist, however.

 

[epigene]

Interestingly, though, even though Japanese husbands often get treated like one, they don't use the word ﾂ食ﾅｽ窶毒停? (meal ticket) to refer to them. Terms like 窶脇窶佚･窶堋ｲ窶堙 (large item of trash)ﾂ and ﾆ担ﾆ鱈ﾆ置ﾆ椎?窶凖?ﾅｽﾃ･ (cockroach husband)ﾂ do exist, however.

Ah, yes, and don't forget 窶扁窶堙ｪ窶版ｽ窶堋ｿ窶杯ﾂ

FYI, my husband fortunately doesn't fall in any of these categories...

Forgot to add definition for "nureochiba":
A "wet leaf"
This is an unflattering metaphor for a retired man who clings to his wife like a wet fallen leaf sticks to the sidewalk.
--From the Japan Picture Dictionary
http://www8.plala.or.jp/y-naka/jiten-n.html

 

[Mars Man]

Wow....and lol at the same time !! I least I've never had those titles slung at me. I just need a little (lot?) less antagonism just to spite.

Oh lucky woman you are epigene san--not to say that there are not many lucky women in all parts of Japan or the world.


Thanks for that extra input there Mike, epigene ! MM

Oh...and by the way there was a write-up in today's THE DAILY YOMIURI about the government planning to dip into some funds to spend some money on trying to deal with the lack of birth--seems they should work on marriage and relationship building first....

 

[kirei_na_me]

seems they should work on marriage and relationship building first....

I would agree.

 

[Ewok85]

Makes me wonder a little, when my Dad retired just over a year ago he was put on house cleaning duties. I've never seen someone sweep a floor so diligently!
(bit of a cleaning freak like me)

 

[budd]

a question

is he the oldest sibling? he has a brother and a younger sister, i remember that much, but i have forgotten the hierarchy
i know he has at least one son, does the son have his name?
i know of course, but just asking. it would explain the reasoning behind the money anyway
really sorry to hear the news.

 

[MajideSaiaku]

I'm just amazed theres a country of women who only now are contemplating divorce, i guess from my bias western opinion, if you dont love someone, you should have dealt with the issue years ago, not doing this and only worrying now he will stop working smacks of leeching off of his salary for her own selfish benefit to me.

But then again we have to remember japan isnt a country big on speaking about feelings and stuff.