Can Japanese Lesbians Come Out Of The Closet??

GAAAAAA! This is a subject close to my ummm, heart, yeah, heart. I strived to meet lesbians or bi-females my entire year in Japan with NO luck. Zero, zilch, nada. Granted I didn't go out enough but...
In my experience (in Japan) it's been that whatever you do in private is fine but in public you need to maintain the most "normal" apperence possible (btw I don't believe in the concept of "normal"). Even though the birth rate is low in Japan you can't deny how important family is to most Asians. So being openly gay is a sign that you aren't going to continue the family, which is the biggest sin.

Generally I think gay men are more visible in most cultures. I wish I knew where all the lesbians are hiding!!! >_< An aside to the whole shonen ai thing--I think that those stories are appealing due to the fact that the guys are pretty (hot) and most of it involves relationships and us girlies love relationships, so double your pleasure, double your fun. That brings me to my complaint about the lack of Yuri!! Where is the hot girl on girl action?

Lately while trying to plan a trip back to Japan I could only get info on ONE lesbian bar in Tokyo. ::weep:: but I WILL go, even if I have to pay a cover and a table charge. If there are any lesbians or bi-females, PLEASE make yourself known.
 
Utena79 said:
Even though the birth rate is low in Japan you can't deny how important family is to most Asians. So being openly gay is a sign that you aren't going to continue the family, which is the biggest sin.
That's pretty much what I heard.

Nobody cares if you're gay or not - as long as you settle down in a family and have children*.

* Any slight internal inconsistencies in this attitude seem to be thoroughly ignored. ^^;
 
To answer the sexual orientation question, I am a bisexual female trying to meet bi-sexuals or lesbians. I'm not leaving straight guys out, they are just easier to find. Sorry I didn't mean to turn this thread into a dating service, just find some RARE folks. I'm glad people are discussing this here. They sure aren't talking about it in Japan much. Makes me wonder if they have anything akin to women's studies, GLBT studies must really be out of the question!
 
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