Good bye 'Doris'!
(The names have been chaged to protect the innocent)
Well folks,
I've finally cut my losses with my freaky pen pal.
I have known her for a year, during which time she has been going on about coming to England, maybe long term, because she wants to live here.
She has asked me to look at colleges, jobs, hotels, I've arranged rooms at friends houses. I've even been all over London trying to sell the little Teddy Bears she makes, like she asked, and she's done nothing.
I made her a T-shirt for her birthday - she didn't even remember mine. My 30th!
I visited her in Japan. She could barely stand to be in my presence and wanted to go home at 9 o clock (during Golden Week holiday)
I put it down to her being nervous. What a fool I was!
I took her to NHK headquarters in Shibuya, I could have taken someone who deserved it.
After I got back, we discussed her behaviour via email, (she was ashamed of herself)and I said I was sorry if I made her nervous by looking in her eyes - and said she has beautiful eyes - SHE LOST IT!
I said if she was serious about coming to England I would wait for her SHE LOST IT.
She told me I want a girlfriend I'll have to find someone else.
Level-headed person that I am, I thought we'd stay as friends. It's not like we got close, so I wasn't all cut up.
Her family treated me well, and I thought a lot of the problems with her were my lack of undestanding.
The 'friendship' continued, including further efforts on my part looking at hotels etc (at her request). I listened to her whining that she is isolated and no-one wants her. She went to a wedding and was upset that the bride was such a popular person.
Please bear in mind this girl has often asked to be invited to my parents house in Spain - even though she doesn't want to be close to me.
Recently, after her latest request to stay in Spain, I told her I had met a girl and could not promise to take her.
SHE HAS NOT WRITTEN SINCE!
She also gets very angry that I like Japanese women, even though she likes Englishmen - Beckham(yawn) Micheal Owen(?), Tim Roth(OK) and bloody Jamie Oliver.
Last night I sent her a detailed account of her actions from the past year, and expressed my desire to end this whole sorry situation.
I hope I never hear from her again.
Although this is a very negative post, I put it here because of the relief I feel now that this chapter in my life is over.
I have now met someone who is the polar opposite of my ex-pen pal and it opened my eyes.
Be warned guys, cuteness can be faked over the internet! I was sucked in.
Never again.