I'm becoming exceedingly disappointed with the highly defensive and aggressive responses to what was simply a post discussing both videos along with personal commentary and sharing curiosity.
But, Emoni, you did not make it clear that you only wanted to discuss those videos. You wrote a very long first message and concluded in bold type with what most of us so far have perceived as your main point:
So, my question is this: Without getting too personal, what are your thoughts, experiences, stories, and views on the issue of sex in Japan and Japanese society?
Many/most responders here have tried to get you to pin down the focus of such a huge topic. You refuse. As a result, where has this "discussion" gone? Not anywhere specific, and you have not helped the matter.
The most obvious sense of "positive" is personally agreeing with the open and more prevalent aspects in the country in certain areas.
What would you say those are? Help us out here!
Give an opinion or at least describe it so we know what to agree or disagree with. Otherwise, you look like an academic fishing (not trolling) for background information. In that light...
I've made it very clear that the conversations and experiences I have had are NOT accademic, even if my curiosity borders on such aims.
Well, then, why do you bring up the fact that you have had discussions with "researchers" (teachers and students of gender studies) if you are not prepared to bring up even the smallest point of the discussions you had? Nobody is saying you have to give out names of those people or their test subjects.
Just tell us what issue you and they talked about. This statement:
Going into details about the specifics of private conversations I hesitate to do so not only for privacy reasons, but also because it was simply over years of time and to re-piece every comment would not be entirely productive.
is a cop-out. Why dangle the carrot in front of us if you aren't willing to let us eat or even sniff it?
And, how about comments you made like these:
Furthermore, I'm not saying Japan is profoundly unique or exclusive around the world in regards to sex.
Japanese views about sex do NOT seem the same as any country in the world at all.
Contradictory!
And, how about this comment of yours?
In fact, part of the point I wanted to stress while discussing the topic is that it is important not to take any generality and consider it as applicable to all in Japan or anywhere.
Ok, so this implies that you want only people's specific experiences, one-off responses to a multitude of possible sex issues in Japan (like your example of the stripper pole, which itself generated a false idea of what you meant when you brouht it up).
To what end will these individual moments scattered here and there amount?
Next step I'm expecting is for you to ask on this thread for it to be locked like every other thread I ever started.
You know darned well why I asked for that on other threads. They started somewhere and went off in all directions aimlessly. This one has not even gone anywhere from the get-go because the focus is too broad. If you want to publicly berate me, I'd suggest moving your comments to a PM instead of cluttering your already weak thread.
I'm looking for thoughts on the subject, more sources of information, anything that anyone ELSE has run into on the "nihonjinron" of views on sex. Please stop attempting to turn this into something it is not by turning this into some sort of debate or adversarial argument.
You're going to get debate and adversarial arguments anyway, but you need to define what to talk about first. Want to stick with the 3 videos? That's focused enough for me, but I would like you to realize something here. My last few posts provided feedback on the videos, and that in itself should have been a launching pad for you or anyone to extend this "topic".
Have you responded to those comments? Nope. Why is that? This is your thread, and I paid you the courtesy of watching the links you provided. Do me the courtesy of responding to my comments.
Say something to let us know what you feel, ok?