MadamePapillon said:
They want to live in a western country...but they don't want to have anything to do with the west.
Very true Madame P. Many a foreigner desires to live in a western country and enjoy the fruits and freedoms of that country but have no desire to fit in or become a member of that country. So they flock to the "ethnic" neighborhoods, like "Chinatown", "Little Tokyo", "Little Italy", "Little Saigon", "Germantown", "Little Mecca", etc., etc. where they speak and live among themselves, often marrying among themselves, living as they would in their own country and try to have as little to do with the country they are living in or with the local population as possible.
For those that do interact or work among the natives and can speak the language fluently enough to get decent employment, they soon flock back to their community after work where they feel comfortable and "at home" and can interact with their own kind, eat their own kind of food, speak their own language etc. just as if they were living in the country of their birth.
They gladly proclaim their ethnicity with flags on their cars and celebrate all the holidays of their hometown as well as some of their own laws.
The same can be said for the many foreigners who go to Japan or some other foreign country to work. They soon find comfort among their own countrymen and women where they do not have to learn the local language or customs.
Whether this is good or bad, I cannot say for sure. But I do believe that if you move to a foreign country to live permanently, or for a few years by choice, you should truly try and fit in as best you can and that means living as the locals do and speaking the language of your adopted country. And lord knows how difficult that is with all the prejudices, stereo-types and discrimination against those that are perceived to be "outsiders".
When I lived in Japan it was because I wanted to and it was my choice. I chose to live among the locals away from the major cities, learned their language and tried to fit in as best as I could. I tried to stay away from "my own kind" as best as I could (unless they felt and thought as I did) as it would detract me from learning the language and customs and if I wanted to be among my own kind, I would've never left my homeland. For the most part it worked out excellently.
Don't misunderstand me here, I did enjoy hanging out with "my own kind" now and then and speaking my own language on occassion, but it was not my passion and goal. My goal was to fit in as best I could and live as a local would.
For others who tried to live among their own kind (whether American, Canadian, European, etc) it did not work out as well as, after more than 10 or more years of living in the country, they barely could speak the language or knew the customs, but they sure had a lot to complain about with other like-minded foreigners whom they hung out with or lived among almost 100% of the time.
So, if one desires to live in a foreign country by choice, they should forego their own country's customs and culture and adopt the ones of the country they chose to live in, because, after all, why did you choose to live in that country? To take advantage of it? In other words, was it to have your cake and eat it too? If that is the case, it will only draw animosity from the locals IMO and further perpetuate stereo-types.