Fearabhata
Kouhai
- 2 Jan 2022
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Hello everyone
So, I have tried to learn about the japanese mindset, history and culture since even longer than I actually learn the language.
One aspect is the social interaction between people, and the refined peculiarities, and mannerism.
As you probably remember, I frequently visit the people in their restaurant, with whom I am on really friendly terms for now. In the beginning we greeted eachother always in a casual way, "Ogenki desu ka?/Daijobu desu ka?" and so on.. It was fine, to the point to get warm with eachother.
However, I feel like this form of interaction are mostly superficial, and maybe even superfluous especially when I am there so often. Maybe I needlessly ponder about it, but asking too much "how are you?" seems off, in the sense that one doesnt pay intention how the other is feeling, and should be used only sparingly. Therefore, recently I just radiate an awkward smile with a nod when the staff ask me this, and I feel guilty when not responding accordingly. I prefer to ask this only when I actually see a shift in their demeanor, but this is perhaps just the "old" way.
I would be very grateful, if You could translate this into Japanese, in one form or another, because I really want to convey the way I feel it, without seeming too harsh/rude:
"I try to avoid to ask too frequently how you feel, not because I don't care, but to not appear like I do not pay attention"
So, I have tried to learn about the japanese mindset, history and culture since even longer than I actually learn the language.
One aspect is the social interaction between people, and the refined peculiarities, and mannerism.
As you probably remember, I frequently visit the people in their restaurant, with whom I am on really friendly terms for now. In the beginning we greeted eachother always in a casual way, "Ogenki desu ka?/Daijobu desu ka?" and so on.. It was fine, to the point to get warm with eachother.
However, I feel like this form of interaction are mostly superficial, and maybe even superfluous especially when I am there so often. Maybe I needlessly ponder about it, but asking too much "how are you?" seems off, in the sense that one doesnt pay intention how the other is feeling, and should be used only sparingly. Therefore, recently I just radiate an awkward smile with a nod when the staff ask me this, and I feel guilty when not responding accordingly. I prefer to ask this only when I actually see a shift in their demeanor, but this is perhaps just the "old" way.
I would be very grateful, if You could translate this into Japanese, in one form or another, because I really want to convey the way I feel it, without seeming too harsh/rude:
"I try to avoid to ask too frequently how you feel, not because I don't care, but to not appear like I do not pay attention"