First I want to say happy holidays everyone.
Recently I have this dilemma but I cant seem to solve it by myself, hence my registering here.
I'm an Asian living in Europe and have been participating in this Japan related community for 4 years. A month ago this new girl joined and from the first sight I know she is my type, but I didn't show my interest because I don't know how to approach her. That was until our year end party when I brought my camera with me (my career is photographer) and she started the conversation, mentioning her hobby is photography and she has a film camera. So the day after I brought her one black and white film roll to give as christmas present. She seemed very happy and mentioned she wanted to get into black and white photography but doesn't know how. I explained how she should do until she said that we should go out and I show her the way. I accepted it, thinking it was just her being friendly. Well, when the day ended, I went to the entrance only to see her waiting for me so that us two can walk to the station together. During this we talked about the community and the personnel whom I spoke very positively of (normally I rant about many things, but with her I'm a subconscious positive person) while sharing a cake from her. After arriving we parted way but she insisted once again that we must go out for that darkroom experience. I told her my plan and she agreed. She is back in Japan now and we will go together in January.
Now you might wonder this seems positive but why do I ask? 10 years ago I liked a japanese girl in my school. She however had a boyfriend, turned me down, then proceed to break up with her boyfriend and slept with my best friend, only to get dumped by him. That left me a trauma. Also during the walk I had a hunch that she is the one, which I never had while dating people from my own country. I'm also although an unconscious romantic person (do romantic act without saying or think that it wasn't romantic) but I'm as dense as a log, so I never picked up hint from girls. We also go to the same community and if I mistake her friendliness or hint, it will be a disaster.
I don't know how should I proceed it. Personally I want to keep this as is cause I enjoy her company, but I know it won't last forever so I gotta face it. I want to go slow but it might turn out bad making she thinks that I'm not interested in her. But fast is also not my comfortable style. I know I should treat her as normal girl, but there is some cultural difference between my country and japanese dating so it's best I am prepared for it.
I'm sorry this is dragging too long. If you can give me an advice or two, it will be a great help. Thank you.
Recently I have this dilemma but I cant seem to solve it by myself, hence my registering here.
I'm an Asian living in Europe and have been participating in this Japan related community for 4 years. A month ago this new girl joined and from the first sight I know she is my type, but I didn't show my interest because I don't know how to approach her. That was until our year end party when I brought my camera with me (my career is photographer) and she started the conversation, mentioning her hobby is photography and she has a film camera. So the day after I brought her one black and white film roll to give as christmas present. She seemed very happy and mentioned she wanted to get into black and white photography but doesn't know how. I explained how she should do until she said that we should go out and I show her the way. I accepted it, thinking it was just her being friendly. Well, when the day ended, I went to the entrance only to see her waiting for me so that us two can walk to the station together. During this we talked about the community and the personnel whom I spoke very positively of (normally I rant about many things, but with her I'm a subconscious positive person) while sharing a cake from her. After arriving we parted way but she insisted once again that we must go out for that darkroom experience. I told her my plan and she agreed. She is back in Japan now and we will go together in January.
Now you might wonder this seems positive but why do I ask? 10 years ago I liked a japanese girl in my school. She however had a boyfriend, turned me down, then proceed to break up with her boyfriend and slept with my best friend, only to get dumped by him. That left me a trauma. Also during the walk I had a hunch that she is the one, which I never had while dating people from my own country. I'm also although an unconscious romantic person (do romantic act without saying or think that it wasn't romantic) but I'm as dense as a log, so I never picked up hint from girls. We also go to the same community and if I mistake her friendliness or hint, it will be a disaster.
I don't know how should I proceed it. Personally I want to keep this as is cause I enjoy her company, but I know it won't last forever so I gotta face it. I want to go slow but it might turn out bad making she thinks that I'm not interested in her. But fast is also not my comfortable style. I know I should treat her as normal girl, but there is some cultural difference between my country and japanese dating so it's best I am prepared for it.
I'm sorry this is dragging too long. If you can give me an advice or two, it will be a great help. Thank you.