Wife name. after marriage
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Apollo
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- 28 Mar 2004
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Have you not spoken to your future wife about it?
Normally, women take the surname of her husband, but there are some who prefer their maiden name....I guess all people are different.
So I'd suggest you speak to her about this matter. She must have thought about getting a Dutch surname...
Taking a foreign surname is normal when getting married to a foreigner in Japan, however, as I have just said, there are some who prefer their maiden names...
Normally, women take the surname of her husband, but there are some who prefer their maiden name....I guess all people are different.
So I'd suggest you speak to her about this matter. She must have thought about getting a Dutch surname...
Taking a foreign surname is normal when getting married to a foreigner in Japan, however, as I have just said, there are some who prefer their maiden names...
- 5 Feb 2005
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its a pretty hard one i think.. because when we get children in japan,, i dont know if i want them to have my name ... ( oficialy i would like... ) but i mean...
on school, there teacher calll them Stokhof-chan.... haha... i dont want him to get bullied or something because of his name... so for my wife it would be okay.. but for the child...
mmm man this is some serieus stuf hahaha.... well we still have time to think about that.....
on school, there teacher calll them Stokhof-chan.... haha... i dont want him to get bullied or something because of his name... so for my wife it would be okay.. but for the child...
mmm man this is some serieus stuf hahaha.... well we still have time to think about that.....
Jent
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- 21 Apr 2003
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I agree. That might be kinda strange in Japan to be called by a non-Japanese name. Much like in America, I would love to name my children Japanese names (because I really think they sound so much more unique and beautiful than most standard american names) but, I don't want to risk them being made fun of.
Alma
nature's sweet success
- 2 Apr 2005
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it depends if u r planing to live in Japan, i guess it is better for kids to have japanese last name. and first name too. maybe kids could have both last names. if those are not too long, of course. on the other hand, it is silly to you and your wife have one last name, dutch, and kids japanese. you could get her last name...
mr.sumo.snr
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- 19 Jul 2004
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My wife and I briefly talked about this before we got married nine years ago. We decided that we would both keep our family names. My wife only has one sister, and so the continuation of the family name might have been an issue. However, when her sister married (an arranged marriage of course) her husband agreed to change his own family name - hence the name would continue. In fact with 3 sons and 1 daughter, the name will comfortably last another 100 years at least! (Somehwhat ironically my brother-in-law has two other brothers and one sister, all married, all in their fifties, and all childless. It is HIS family name that might cease to exist in the next 40 years - I think one of my nephews might change his name though).
Children born in Japan automatically take the same last name of their birth mother.
Reasons for our choice? Firstly, my wife works as a nurse in a large municipal hospital. She has to wear a name-tag of course and the last thing she wants to be doing all day is field questions ad nauseam about her own ethnicity, or that of her husband. I'd go so far as to suggest that a Japanese employee's family name - if NOT Japanese, might actually impede their promotion at work. There are a lot of arseholes in management positions.
The other major reason was my simple ambivalence to the issue. So what if my son has a different surname from his father. If he chooses to live in the UK when he's older then he can use his British-registered name, which is the same as mine. Or continue with his Japanese name - up to him.
What I would opt for, for your children, are Japanese first names that can also function in Dutch or English. Rin, Tomu, Ken, Risa, Ren, Jorji, Hana, Ema are English examples off the top of my head - there are dozens more.
Children born in Japan automatically take the same last name of their birth mother.
Reasons for our choice? Firstly, my wife works as a nurse in a large municipal hospital. She has to wear a name-tag of course and the last thing she wants to be doing all day is field questions ad nauseam about her own ethnicity, or that of her husband. I'd go so far as to suggest that a Japanese employee's family name - if NOT Japanese, might actually impede their promotion at work. There are a lot of arseholes in management positions.
The other major reason was my simple ambivalence to the issue. So what if my son has a different surname from his father. If he chooses to live in the UK when he's older then he can use his British-registered name, which is the same as mine. Or continue with his Japanese name - up to him.
What I would opt for, for your children, are Japanese first names that can also function in Dutch or English. Rin, Tomu, Ken, Risa, Ren, Jorji, Hana, Ema are English examples off the top of my head - there are dozens more.
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To sort of add to what my old pal Mr. Sumo has said.....In some cases wives will officially take their foreign husband's surname but may choose to use their maiden name at work (although all official stuff like payroll, tax records, pension, etc will list the legal surname). Sometimes the woman chooses to do this for reasons such as Mrs. Sumo, not wanting the hassle of explaining it to all and sundry forever and ever. Sometimes the company will request that the person use their Japanese name so as not to stand out or be different.
Sometimes, women may find it difficult to find employment with that foreign surname and make their job applications with their maiden name and only confide to the employer that official work-related documents need to be in a different name after they have landed the job.
As far as kids go....anybody who is likely to tease them is going to do it based more on obvious differences in appearance than they are on names, so name them whatever the heck you want to. It won't make any difference.
Sometimes, women may find it difficult to find employment with that foreign surname and make their job applications with their maiden name and only confide to the employer that official work-related documents need to be in a different name after they have landed the job.
As far as kids go....anybody who is likely to tease them is going to do it based more on obvious differences in appearance than they are on names, so name them whatever the heck you want to. It won't make any difference.
Bob in Iowa
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My wife and I were married in Japan 30 years ago, when I was stationed near Tokyo as a member of the US Air Force. Our marriage certificate issued by the US State Dept lists my last name, but when we registered the marriage with the Japanese government office, we kept her maiden name, along with my last name. Her passport shows her maiden name with my last name in parenthesis. Her US Permanent resident card shows both names.
In the US she has always used my last name, but in Japan it is less cumbersome for her to use her maiden name.
In the US she has always used my last name, but in Japan it is less cumbersome for her to use her maiden name.
-Rudel-
Fire Star Man
- 8 Feb 2005
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My future wife and I talked about it a while back. We decided that she will take my last name, and move her family name as a middle name. She has an older brother with 2 sons and a daughter so the family name will definately last a while. Her name will look like this:
Akemi Ishikawa Carter, luckly the last name is easy on the kana...hehe.
KATA!!!!
LEE!!!
KATA!!!!
LEE!!!
Akemi Ishikawa Carter, luckly the last name is easy on the kana...hehe.
KATA!!!!
LEE!!!
KATA!!!!
LEE!!!
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