Agreed.
One must also take into consider that the whole morality thing behind the trick of the oldest trade was based on the notion that each man will have the opportunity to marry and thus obtain a wife. With the sex ratios being as high these days and with many bachelors who will go without they cannot be judged in the same way as those who have had the fortune to partner up. I would see their situation with mercy rather than one with judgement.
I agree with your opinion, about the humiliation as the oldest tactics in getting a spouse in chinese societies and culture.
China has been known since long time ago, they have less women than men. It is the same with India.
Then as the result, they try to attract the future wifes from overseas chinese background, vietnamese, thais, laos, cambodians, etc.
Especially the ones that have the similarities in background.
However many overseas chinese are reluctant with them, of course. Even some chinese women from mainland, they are so reluctant with those bachelors that are actually uneducated, dirty, close minded, rude, poor, no compatibilities etc. Love can not be forced/ pressed, either it is the love between the same ethnics/ race/ religions, or the love between the different ethnics/ race/ religions.
It is worsened with the raise of nationalist movement in chinese societies. I knew that chinese society especially the traditional ones, like from China mainland, their sense of collectivism is compelling and judgemental so much, including in terms of marriage.
So if you are chinese and you choose to marry the one that is not chinese, you will get social punishment through humiliation, harrassment, boicott etc, like it is said above.
I knew that China national badminton female athlet, named Huang Hua around 1990's. She married an Indonesian, and moved to Indonesia.
When she represented indonesia in international badminton championship, she was harrased very badly and rudely by the judge from China mainland until she cried and withdrew from the match, due to she married an indonesian and changed citizenship.
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