I am familiar with a few different ways to see have to/must. 夕食を食べなければならない/なりません。 夕食を食べてはいけない/いけません。 夕食を食べてはだめです。 One could also suggest 食べる方がいい as a lighter sort of that, 'ought to'. All of these seem to be pretty big mouthfuls (especially ~nakereba narimasen). Is this simply the way it is...