My Japanese girlfriend is pregnant and in Japan i'm trying to get a job there

user42784 · 21 Nov 2008

as the titles suggests,

my Japanese Girlfriend has gone back to Japan as her studying has finished, we have been together 2 years and we love each other very much.

She has been pregnant for 9 weeks and we have both decided to keep the baby and want to raise the child as a family.

I am 25 and have a degree I have one year teaching experience behind me before I went to uni. I am applying where I can to get a Visa in Japan so I can live and work there.

Is it somehow possible to get Japanese residency from the Japanese Embassy on the basis that she is carrying our child or not at all?

Or

either way, we want to live in Kanagawa and I don't want to miss out on her pregnancy or the birth of our child.

Do you know any good teaching companies that I can get a job with, please post links even if I have already applied for, I need sponsorship for Visa if here being pregnant doesn't grant me access to live or work in Japan.

Glenski · 21 Nov 2008

A degree is all that's needed to get a work visa (and often a teaching job) here.

Tons of places to apply. November to January, sad to say, is the deadest time of year, though. You're going to have to hustle, especially if you aren't even in the country.
Ohayosensei.com
eltnews.com
gaijinpot.com
japantimes.co.jp
PM me for a list of 1-2 dozen others.

Marry your gf, get a spouse visa, and you don't NEED a work visa, though.

pipokun · 21 Nov 2008

Two different cases in the same prefecture

Briton arrested in Japan after 'shaking newborn son to death because it wouldn't stop crying'

A Briton has been arrested in Japan after allegedly shaking his newborn son to death.

www.dailymail.co.uk

コラム】日本政府の子育て（下）
こうした一連の経験は、子供を出産した一般の日本人とまったく同じものだった。外国人だから余計にサービスがいいとか、サービスが少ないとかいうことはなかった。だから、東京に住む韓国企業の社員や公務員、留学生たちは「うちの家族で、日本でお金を稼いでくれるのは子供たち」と話す。韓国からお金を持ち出し、使ってしまう大人たちとは違い、子供たちは日本で「生活に困らないだけの分を稼いでくれる」という笑い話だが、その言葉の中には日本の育児支援システムに対する「うらやましさ」も込められている。
東京＝鮮于鉦（ソンウ・ジョン）特派員
http://www.chosunonline.com/article/20080917000050

Work hard for her and your kid.

user42784 · 22 Nov 2008

I can't read Japanese could someone please translate this into English for me or show me an English website with this description.

羊水検査
出典: フリー百科事典『ウィキペディア（Wikipedia）』
移動: ナビゲーション, 検索

羊水検査（ようすいけんさ）とは出生前診断の一種。妊娠子宮に長い注射針に似た針を刺して羊水を吸引すること（羊水穿刺）によって得られた羊水中の物質や羊水中の胎児細胞をもとに、染色体や遺伝子異常の有無を調べる。妊娠15~18週とかなり胎児が大きく育ってから実施される。羊水検査で診断できるのは遺伝子など特定の異常に限られており、すべての異常が調べられるわけではない。

1/200~1/300の確率で流産を引き起こす可能性がある[1]。また、稀ではあるが子宮内感染から播種性血管内凝固症候群を引き起こすこともあり得る。そのため超音波検査のようにすべての妊婦が受ける質のものではない。高齢出産に伴うダウン症候群など異常発生率が検査のリスクを越える場合に行われる。胎児の性別判定のみを目的とした検査ではないが、時には染色体異常の検査と同時に胎児の性別を知るために行われる事もある。

日本産科婦人科学会倫理委員会は、2007年4月改定版のガイドラインにおいても、引き続き [2]「重篤なＸ連鎖遺伝病のために検査が行われる場合を除き、胎児の性別を告げてはならない」という規定を保っている。しかしながら、実際には染色体検査の結果とともに性別を告知する医師もおり、学会の見解そのものに意義を唱える動きもある[3]。また血友病の保因者が胎児の性別判定を目的とした羊水検査を希望したが断られたため中絶を選択したケース [4]もあり、羊水検査は着床前診断同様、倫理問題を抱えている。

胎児の異常が発見されたときには、子宮内で大きく育った胎児の人工妊娠中絶が実施される確率が高い。

nice gaijin · 22 Nov 2008

where'd you get that article? It's about amniotic fluid testing and the various things it's used for, as well as the moral dilemmas about it. looks like it's pretty much just pulled straight from wikipedia.

pipokun, the second link is broken. I'm not sure what you're trying to say by linking to those articles...

Mikawa Ossan · 22 Nov 2008

If you're serious about keeping the child and raising it together as a family, I agree with Glenski: marry your girlfriend. Then get a spouse visa and find work.

Drew-san · 22 Nov 2008

A rushed marriage is generally not a good thing. I think he should spend a good amount of time with her in Japan before he rushes into something like that. It could be a big mistake.

Mikawa Ossan · 22 Nov 2008

With a baby on the way, they don't have a whole lot of time....

pipokun · 22 Nov 2008

羊水検査

I assume she wanted him to give some financial help for her checkup, for not everything is covered in the NHI scheme.

*snip

nice gaijin said:
...
pipokun, the second link is broken. I'm not sure what you're trying to say by linking to those articles...

I heard the Chosun Ilbo decided to discontinue their generosity about their archive policy, but I can still access the link.

What I wanted to say is just one thing.

外国人だから余計にサービスがいいとか、サービスが少ないとかいうことはなかった。

The equal treatment under the NHI, Japanese or foreign.

ArmandV · 23 Nov 2008

Mikawa Ossan said:
If you're serious about keeping the child and raising it together as a family, I agree with Glenski: marry your girlfriend. Then get a spouse visa and find work.

I agree, marry her and then your visa problems are solved.

Drew-san · 23 Nov 2008

Marrying just because of a child could screw your life up. Live with her for a few months before you jump into it.

Grandpa Frank · 23 Nov 2008

Drew-san said:
Marrying just because of a child could screw your life up.

In the old days we called that owning up to your responsibilities; back then, it only seemed right the birth certificate should show a mother & father's name.

Uncle Frank

Chidoriashi · 23 Nov 2008

Uncle Frank said:
In the old days we called that owning up to your responsibilities; back then, it only seemed right the birth certificate should show a mother & father's name.
Uncle Frank

I agree, if you wanna be a family as you say you need to marry her, and get ready to be flexible cuz change and adjustment are going to define your life for the next few years.

Mikawa Ossan · 23 Nov 2008

Uncle Frank said:
In the old days we called that owning up to your responsibilities; back then, it only seemed right the birth certificate should show a mother & father's name.
Uncle Frank

Hear, hear!

Plus, a lot of Japanese people get married that way. It's called a "dekichatta kekkon".

user42784 · 23 Nov 2008

thanks for the advise guys,

we have lived with each other before in England for a few months and was fine,

I am bored of England anyways my job is dull and I went to Japan twice last year april and august and this year i am going in December for 2 weeks to spend new year with her family

hopefully i will have interviews and tuff sorted out

ArmandV · 23 Nov 2008

Uncle Frank said:
In the old days we called that owning up to your responsibilities

Amen to that. If you're gonna play, you gotta pay.

Drew-san · 23 Nov 2008

Good luck, you'll need it. -_-'

nice gaijin · 24 Nov 2008

Does her family already know about her pregnancy? Or that you two were living together in Britain? Either way, it'll be an interesting Holiday.

And yeah, if you want to really raise this kid with her, do things right and make it official.

user42784 · 25 Nov 2008

yes they do, they said wrong timing but they agree with it.

before she was pregnant we had arranged to get married in the end of may but not possible now as wedding dress won't fit so we have to reschedul i dunno what's happening

Emoni · 1 Dec 2008

Knigar said:
yes they do, they said wrong timing but they agree with it.
before she was pregnant we had arranged to get married in the end of may but not possible now as wedding dress won't fit so we have to reschedul i dunno what's happening

Well, I've heard crazier reasons for post-poning weddings...

Mikawa Ossan · 1 Dec 2008

Just remember that a wedding ceremony in Japan is 100% show and 0% substance.

You get married at city hall, so your wife's dress size won't be an issue. You can always get married before the ceremony. Or you can until afterwards, but whatever you do, don't forget to do the proper paperwork!

user42784 · 3 Dec 2008

help

birth certificate - check
passport - aka proof british national - check

certificate of impediment no no no

I'm iN England, been to Japanese embassy on the phone not very helpful, same as english embassy. apparently I need to certificate from the UK registrar office so i can get it all sorted took me all day to find this out

can i just confirm thsi with you guys, is that the only 3 pieces of documentation i need

Glenski · 3 Dec 2008

You will also need a copy of her family register (koseki).

user42784 · 3 Dec 2008

koseki?

is that something she does at her end or is it something i have to organise in England

becki_kanou · 3 Dec 2008

She'll have to go to her local city or ward office and get it. I think it's Koseki Tohon no utsushi, but if she goes to the office they should be able to tell her what she needs.

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