We are poor so no chance we could affort it.Cloa,
Is there any chance you can send your son to an English-speaking school?
If Japanese school were sensitive to the bullying issue then they would get on top of the cuture problem at the start of the year. The bully is a super bully who gets other children to hit my son for him and he when my son (in an unfathomable decision) accepted a play fight grabbed him around the neck but at l;east it is apparently not every day or even every week. My son is self-admitted the second worst child (not sure if he means just behavior or academics). He does his homework with his mother and there is some hysterics nearly every time. He does it in the end. Fortunately maths homework is finally changing but it is so much number writing (writing the full equation).Maybe he has a friend in one of the jukus? If he is going with a friend, it would (obviously) be more fun. Online reviews would also be a resource to check out (though not always accurate). Also, convenience is a factor. If the place is inconvenient, and its a hassle for mom and dad to pick him up, it will affect all of you.
Regarding the violence, have you talked to the school about this? Bullying is a big problem, and is constantly in the news. I would think a school would be sensitive to this issue.
By the way, I think the problem of the kid hating school is temporary. Eventually he will get overcome this. Don't let it stress you out too much.
You mean full-time as he is currently to an English-speaking school for after school.Cloa,
Is there any chance you can send your son to an English-speaking school?
Sorry for being away from this for a while. First the easy parts...(1) He went to one year of Yochien and my wife is Japanese and his Japanese grandparents live upstairs and (2) one year of preprimary (English kindy) and (3) he has no problem with speaking Japanese. (4) It is the strict writing that is part of the problem (5) also he draws on textbooks or does curcly numbers. (6) He goes to the kindy's after school program which he loves. (7) Japanese school's children being prone to violence is part of the problem. (8) At preprimary he had mostly native Japanese classmates but no violence culture.
Many children are prone to using violence for personal dispute even a girl on him once and as I indicated the bully gets other children to hit and there is the non-telling and covering for the bully. Many children in the kindy were violent- such as one who hit with sticks. My son was prone to putting English letters and more rately hiragana backwards for a long time but think he is all fixed to writing correctly in Japanese and English but sloppily. Curly is I don't care. He is prone to saying it doesn't matter if he does things right or not. He can read in both languages. Strict writing is writing following correct stroking including positioning and ordering.Sorry for being away from this for a while. First the easy parts...
1-3, and also 6, would seem to be normal, or that they would aid/facilitate or go along with normality (in school life).
Also, you mention "a bully" in your first post, and here, in 7-8, it is being generalized as "children prone to violence" and "violence culture". Hopefully, it is just a problem with one student, that as you mention, could be dealt with separately--something specific to this one student.
• And the important question/point(s): Keeping 3 in mind, 4-5 make me wonder--how is his english writing? And secondarily, his reading in either language? And what is "curcly numbers"--is that curly/circle-y, or what?
So his speaking ability seems fine, but he has trouble with apparently 'strict' writing tasks/requirements (japanese). Which is why I ask about his english writing--how is he doing with that? This is the internet, and the posts here are the scarcest of evidence, and this is not at all my specialty, but if he has any trouble with english writing (and reading in either/both languages), then my wonderings jump to the possibility of dyslexia (which has many forms). And on the side of those thoughts, your mention that he 'does curcly numbers', which also may indicate some kind of difference in visual processing.
I guess that's it. Apart from writing, can he read in japanese--kana? Can he read in english? Does he write in english? Can he recognize individual numbers, and say what they are in English or Japanese?
Again, this is the internet, musings based on the smallest bits and pieces, so this could be way off the mark.