after 5 minutes of serious consideration with myself i decided this would be the best forum to ask my question in since it's kinda connected to relationship advice. or so? well read and decide and if the mods say "no it doesn't! get lost!" maybe they can help.
1) i can dance classical dances (tango, chacha, waltz, jive etc) because i know the steps (even had a silver class (was bored then -> quit)
2) i feel safe and enjoy it as long as i know what im doing (=> the steps)
3) i get very embarassed and unsafe when i make mistakes and have to improvise. ( i mean seriously i even get adrenaline
)
4) i feel retarded because im so tall and my limbs are so long and i look goofy while moving (which i dont worry about as long as im dancing with a plan and without messing up)
so now you know the setting my problem is based on:
1) there are no "classical" dances in a disco
2) in a disco (or club) you move on your own and improvise and stuff and bla. you don't look goofy. you better not
3) disco = girls
4) guys that don't dance = girls dont like that
5) i don't know how to move or so without feeling retarded and goofy
6) i avoid discos (which is not good because of point 3) and 4)
) )
is my problem normal? do other guys think like that? do i need to have some sessions with my psycho-brain-plumber how ever you spell these guys (psychologician? i dont know) - obviously not for the dancing but for the mental issue.
is there a way to "learn" certain ways to move in dicso (=> a dance) so i dont have to worry bout it (as i said as long as i know what im doing i feel safe (and when i feel safe i move more confident))
:? this is troubling me. when i go back to germany this summer i wantto go clubbing and stuff and not be the idiot that sits around in the chillout corner but im so nervous.
i appreaciate your opinion :>
edit: by the way i feel a lot better having said it :>
1) i can dance classical dances (tango, chacha, waltz, jive etc) because i know the steps (even had a silver class (was bored then -> quit)
2) i feel safe and enjoy it as long as i know what im doing (=> the steps)
3) i get very embarassed and unsafe when i make mistakes and have to improvise. ( i mean seriously i even get adrenaline
)4) i feel retarded because im so tall and my limbs are so long and i look goofy while moving (which i dont worry about as long as im dancing with a plan and without messing up)
so now you know the setting my problem is based on:
1) there are no "classical" dances in a disco
2) in a disco (or club) you move on your own and improvise and stuff and bla. you don't look goofy. you better not
3) disco = girls
4) guys that don't dance = girls dont like that
5) i don't know how to move or so without feeling retarded and goofy
6) i avoid discos (which is not good because of point 3) and 4)
) )is my problem normal? do other guys think like that? do i need to have some sessions with my psycho-brain-plumber how ever you spell these guys (psychologician? i dont know) - obviously not for the dancing but for the mental issue.
is there a way to "learn" certain ways to move in dicso (=> a dance) so i dont have to worry bout it (as i said as long as i know what im doing i feel safe (and when i feel safe i move more confident))
:? this is troubling me. when i go back to germany this summer i wantto go clubbing and stuff and not be the idiot that sits around in the chillout corner but im so nervous.
i appreaciate your opinion :>
edit: by the way i feel a lot better having said it :>
