Citizenship doesn't expire, so you don't have to renew it.
You can choose to come over with your husband on a SOFA (Status of Forces Agreement) sponsored basis and once you're here take care of having a Japanese passport reissued, if you like. Or you can come over on a tourist visa on your American passport, and then once you're here just remain due to being a Japanese citizen.
A few points:
1. If you have dual citizenship, Japan requires you to choose one or the other at (or by?) the age of 20. Declaring to Japan that you choose Japanese citizenship has no direct effect on your American citizenship as far as America is concerned. However, I'm just a random stranger on the internet and you would do well to seek competent professional advice regarding that.
2. Japan is a "jus sanguinis" (by blood) country....not a "jus soli" (by being born there, like the U.S.) country. If I read your posts correctly you have no Japanese blood and obtained citizenship due to a provision which allows for Japanese citizenship when the father is unknown. That should have no bearing on citizenship once granted, though. You got it; you still have it.
3. Marriage at 18 is never a particularly good idea, particularly when you consider throwing in the stresses of living in a foreign land and a military/dependent lifestyle. I don't expect you to pay any attention at all to this bit, but I'm throwing it out there just so you can't later on say nobody tried to warn you.
4. You love the idea of Japan. You have no way of knowing if you will love Japan or not until you get here. Just keep the distinction in mind.
5. Depending on your husband's branch of service, rank, duty station, availability of housing, etc. he may or may not be able to obtain command sponsorship to bring you over on the SOFA thingy. Typically, approval involves his committing to a lengthened stay at that duty station. However, it brings additional benefits in terms of housing assistance and getting in line for base housing, if/when it becomes available.
6. We're happy to help to the degree that we can, but you should always remember that the best advice you'll ever get for such important things is, as has already been pointed out, to seek competent professional advice and assistance.