Friendship

[Anchyyy]

I argued with one of my classmates today and a while after that i came out with this.


Does everyone need friends? Why?


How many good friends do you have? How are they like? Can you really trust them?


Have you ever had a bad expirience with your friends?



I think that actually everybody needs friends. Some people just don't admit it, but everybody would like to have someone who would comfort him. To make him feel good and to be there for him 24/7.


I have only one friend i can trust completely and i know she won't betray me.
Her name is Eva. She's gone through a lot of things with me, she know how to make me happy when i'm sad, she knows what kind of person i am. She understands me, she listens to my problems and everything i have to say, no matter what it is. She's gone through smiliar situation like me. She always tells me if she doesn't like something. That's what i like the most about her. I always know how she feels about something. She never let me down. We see each other once a month, we go to a pub, we drink coffee or tea and just talk the whole evening. She's wonderful. A friend i would like to keep my wole life.


I had a friend twho years ago. We were really close, she knew everythig about me and i knew everything about her. One day i was in a really bad mood and i didn't want to tell her why. I would probably tell her in some time, however she started yelling at me, because i didn't tell her. She even said she has the right to know, since she is my best friend. When she stopped yelling at me, i just said that she is not going to speak to me like that ever. We haven't talked since that. A week later every school knew everything about me.



Arguing can be helping sometimes It gives you good ideas

 

[Grandpa Frank]

Some friend ?

I had a younger buddy I took hunting and fishing with me for 10 years, he was more like a son then a friend almost.He didn't have a dad so I got togeather with him almost every weekend till he went off in the military. He resently got out and needed money to get an apartment and a car. I loaned him more then I could really afford, but, he was my best friend, so I really wanted to help him. I never saw him again after the loan? I guess with some friends , you never really know if they are a real friend.

Uncle Frank

 

[Anchyyy]

Aww Uncle Frank. I feel for you. That really wasn't nice from him

 

[justin]

I have a friend, named Ai, I met in college who is the best friend I ever had. We became friends after she joined the International Students' Club (I'm American, she's Japanese). We would hang-out, get lunch together, play video games, cook dinner for eachother (more me than her since she can't get enough of my cooking) and talk about everything. I'm not the most handsom man in the world, but she saw past that to who I am. Most people only see me as a brute who is only good at lifting heavy things, but she saw me for the kind, gentle, and smart young man that I am. If everyone had a friend like her nobody would be unhappy.

On the otherside of the coin, here in San Francisco I met a girl who asked me for help with her ESL class. I helped her and her friends with the class and spent time with them. After awhile the girl told me I was her best friend and I was touched, but about a month ago her and her friends started treating me like a stray dog. I guess now that they are done with the class our friendship is done as well. It wouldn't hurt so much if she hadn't said I was her best friend.

If it wasn't for the people in my life like Ai, I would think I would be better off alone.

 

[Satorian]

I had a younger buddy I took hunting and fishing with me for 10 years, he was more like a son then a friend almost.He didn't have a dad so I got togeather with him almost every weekend till he went off in the military. He resently got out and needed money to get an apartment and a car. I loaned him more then I could really afford, but, he was my best friend, so I really wanted to help him. I never saw him again after the loan? I guess with some friends , you never really know if they are a real friend.
Uncle Frank

Not knowing the exact circumstances I'd wager the guess that he didn't want to rip you off, but has no idea how to pay the money back and feels uncomfortable being indebted and facing you.
Of course this isn't easily resolved, and proper communication can be hard and difficult, but perhaps there is something to be salvaged from that friendship.

 

[Kinsao]

What a nice idea for a thread. My friends make me happy!

Does everyone need friends? Why?
I suppose there are some people who feel like they don't "need" friends and are quite happy alone, but personally I think that everyone does need friends... i don't think you can develop fully as a person without friendship, if you try to manage without it there will be something missing in your emotional development. I don't necessarily mean really deep friendships but even just something slight... imo without any friend at all, life is not the same... ok some people can manage without it and might even feel stronger as being more "independent" but i still think such ppl r very few... and like i said before, without such a wide emotional development. So although ppl don't always need friends to live, imo everyone needs at least one "friend" (however slight that may be) in their life in order to further develop as a person.

How many good friends do you have? How are they like? Can you really trust them?
I don't have very many friends, but rather only "acquaintances". I've never been the kind of person who has a "best friend". Right now I would say I've got about 5 or 6 "good friends". Even so we are not really "close", but rather, these are ppl that i would trust with most things, would go to if i was in difficulties - that kind of thing. We don't even see each other that often; they aren't the kind of friendships where you're always popping into each other's houses, or going for a drink every week, but when we do see each other, all the pieces fall into place and we just pick up our friendship comfortably. ^^" Basically they're just people that seem to be able to tolerate me And yes, I really can trust them - but then again, I've got nothing I care about enough to make "trust" an issue in my life, really.

Have you ever had a bad expirience with your friends?
I don't make friends easily and rarely, if ever, get close enough to someone to be able to be hurt by them. The last "bad experience" I can remember with a friend was when I was 12 years old! XD... One of my pals was mad with me because I got a better grade than her in something, and she hit me when my back was turned, and I ran after her and we had this fight... Such a childish argument XD... since then there has really been nothing...

 

[dreamer]

Does everyone need friends? Why?

Friends...indeed, humans like to feel loved and appreciated, there are also many burdens they can't take just by themself. Sometimes you need to relax and For a weird reason, I prefer telling my problems to a stanger I'll probably never meet than someone who knows me.


How many good friends do you have? How are they like? Can you really trust them?

I don't mean to brag about this but mysteriously, I always attract people, and although my personality sometimes seems too negative, people like to have me around. Now how many of these people can I consider to be my bestfriend(s) ?
The answer is none of them.
I like to treat people equally, and generally, I don't have many secrets.
Of course, there are people I prefer among those who call themselves my friends, but still, what's the real difference between a "best friend" and a "good friend" ?
Isn't it more important to have fun together ?

Have you ever had a bad expirience with your friends?

Hum... a lot of the people who pretented to be my friends are only talking to me when they need help...other than that I don't remember much...

 

[Qutiepie]

I never saw him again after the loan ? I guess with some friends , you never really know if they are a real friend.


Uncle Frank

I don't ever trust anyone with my own money,except possibly my mother ( if it comes to it ) because I believe only parents are dear to their flesh and blood.There is a saying,friends come and go and family stays forever.


miki78 probably needs more time to sort out her thoughts.☝

 

[Anchyyy]

miki78 probably needs more time to sort out her thoughts.☝

Or she doesn't want to talk about it.

 

[The-Beautiful-Roses]

Does everyone need friends? Why?
Yeah cause if they don't have friends, they won't really know how to communicate properly and people like me get frustrated because those without friends can't get hyper without going through a phase of extreme shyness first.
How many good friends do you have? How are they like? Can you really trust them?
I have two. One is a guy and one is a girl. I can trust both of them yeah. What do you expect, they are my g's. I grew up with them and we are cool. Erm..
So yeah the guy's name is John, he is a tennis player, has muscles and abs like rocks. His voice cracks occasionaly and I think its cute. Erm, we WERE childhood sweethearts and I must confess sometimes I think one day I am bound to marry him. He makes me feel special in my pants...-coughs- Kay roses get out of the gutter and into the real world...
-sigh-
Keep going...
Okay lets see... I am the only girl in the neighborhood(A neighborhood of townhouses) his age, that his father will allow in his house alone with him... even when he isn't there? Im not sure if I am allowed to be there when his dad isn't there... or am I? Well I go there anyway. And we talk... whenever I want to do some guy he finds some bad trait and is like, nah you shouldn't. And whenever he finds some girl he would do im like "GO OUT WITH HER" But only cause I know on most cases high school relationships usually never turn out and with all the ****** in my school ill know who he will come to in the end. Tee hee.
He calls me a buffalo.☝
... just to let you know...
WHAT A LOSER Now that I remember that, I don't want to talk about him anymore. =[ Im not fat. -runs in circles like a pansy-
On with Anna... not sure I got the point across with the whole John thing but whatever, im pissed at him now.
ANNA IS MY BESTEST FRIEND IN THE WORLD!! I went through a phase of bisexual-nuss and she supported it till I realized I didn't like women that much. Now she is bi-sexual and I think its cause she wants attention... whatever. Just to let you know she is the type that loves attention and will make someone feel dumb till she thinks she is higher. She does it to everyone. Damnit... well okay, so we talk and she always wants to hang out... and im like dot space dot space period. WTH!!!
To let you know, I like to hang out, but I also don't. If I am with someone too long I get to want to be by myself cause I get these orgasmic spazms in my brain with genious artist inspiration... and if your around I can't do the wonderful work I need to do.
Anna talks a lot, and always wants to make me feel dumb, cause im a ditz I know. But when people point it out its like they are saying, "COURTNEY YOUR WEARING THE SAME UNDERWEAR YOU WERE WEARING TWO MINUTES AGO" ... "Thankyou captain obvious for your wonderful discovery." NO I don't really say that, but thats what im thinking. Anna and I read manga together cause I got her into it. John and I talk about sex together cause he is a guy and im a girl. Basic chemistry. U+I= 69 Don't worry he isn't a *****. Lets see... I only have a few pics of my friends cause John gets really busy in real life and everything, what with his morning workout ****, daily training (for tennis and track), and his alone time.(Where he ------- plays xbox live with some kids that think they are the **** for killing some poor nerd across the world who's life relies on the game for mere happiness.)
Anna and John don't talk much... but thats okay!! I guess? I see Anna on the way home from school every day. She speaks really loud all the time so it hurts and I get annoyed and never want to hang out with her. She also picks fights, but I don't fight with her cause her nails.
I don't see John much except on the bus to home, from school. Sometimes he isn't even there cause his dad picks him up early for tennis training. The only way we can hang out is if go into his house uninvited, run upstairs and do my nightly thing. This would result into me spraying Tag or Axe everywhere in the bathroom cause its fun. Then jumping on his bed to get under the covers and heat blanket. Then scanning his ipod while watching him play video games.
Have you ever had a bad expirience with your friends?
Yes, believe it or not. I know im speaking negatively of them now, but im annoyed cause I haven't hung out with Anna since forever, and John since I guess ..hnn. I don't remember, but it was last week. I know cause we got on his cable, scanned the comcast channels, turned the volume down all the way, and made hilarious conversation out of what it looked like they were saying. And we watched some video with a black woman singing as she danced infront of a mirror... and some other video where some woman had huge pants like that "can't touch this" guy. MC Hammer! Watch it here [ ] Duh na na na... duh na.. duh na CANT TOUCH THIS!!
My friends are great. But I have my acquantences(sp), friends, best friends, and bestest friends. *o* Too bad your neither.☝ xD Jay kay, jk.
Oh shoot on with the bad experiance. Anna and I have had our girl fights, our stupid fights, and our I hate you fights. But all that was when we were children. Now we just get arguements cause we know eachother too well.
John and I get in fights occasionally cause he is a guy and I am a WOMAN that decides everything everyone says has a deeper meaning... and when he decides to pick on me and calls me a buffalo, or says I don't have big boobs I get into those girl things where im like DOT SPACE DOT SPACE BLEEPING PERIOD. Then freak out till he feels bad and we get on with our tickle fights in his bed. Don't worry, we don't do anything physical beyond that... Well actually you have your aggressive pillow fights, wrestling, and football tackles occasionally. Then those random fake arm spazms.
He upsets me when he says my boobs are small. There isn't anything wrong with them... but this is a part of my life and bod. Its like some guy you know and trust, coming up to you and saying, "Your face is crooked.☝ " WTH
That was quite a rant.
I love you my peeps. I wouldn't talk this much if chat was fixed... if it were then I would find something better to talk about other than my bestest friends in the world. HINT HINT -cough- FI-hack- FIX THE CHAT ☝

 

[Tsuyoiko]

Does everyone need friends? Why?

I'm the sort of person who enjoys my own company and doesn't like to be around other people too much. But every so often I will meet a person who makes me feel happy, and I realise that it is important to have at least some friends


How many good friends do you have? How are they like? Can you really trust them?

My husband is my best friend and I trust him completely. In real life I have a handful of friends but they are a lot younger then me, so it is more important that they can trust me. Online there are a couple of people I trust completely - one of those guys is right here on this forum (wonder if he knows who he is???)


Have you ever had a bad expirience with your friends?


Nothing that is so bad I can recall it right now.

 

[Live91]

I don't know anyone who doesn't have any friends and is doing fine without.
I hate being alone, I hate being left by myself so I'm always out there, meeting people. I know who my real friends are. I have two, we talk about everything I trust them but not with my life.
I actually never got in a fight with any of them, I rarely even argue with them(or people in general).

 

[*chelly~panda*]

.....i really dont trust anyone anymore.....all my "friends" stabbed me in the back-minus one whom is very nice and i dont thing she would do such a thing. ive known her for a long time so....yeah.. i found this thing on a website once. i liked it. i really perfer being by myself now... oh well. never had a boy friend though. but thats becouse all i got was a one night stand with i guy whom i thought i could try this friend thing out with.. blablabla...needless i dont think very highly of guys any more. sorry nice guys but some ************************s ruined it for you.:auch:
boy\girl friends stab you in the heart
freinds stab you in the back
but best friends dont carry knives........they carry guns.

 

[Mycernius]

Does everyone need friends? Why?
Everyone needs friends, or rather people that they know fairly well. It is part of the human condition, as we are a social animal. Level of friendship would be a better way to discribe people you know. From acquaintances, to work friends to best friends. I am one who does prefer my own company, but it is good to have people who you can interact with.


How many good friends do you have? How are they like? Can you really trust them?
I have acquaintances. People who I get along with, but wouldn't call them friends exactly. The sort I would meet up with on occassional basis and maybe go out on the town. The I have work friends. People I get on with at work and discuss how the boss is a dick, or to gossip and ***** about customers, road traffic, etc., but I wouldn't really mix with them outside work.
Then I have what I would call good friends or people I think are good friends and have a certain level of trust with them. There are a few on this forum I regard as good friends and feel I could trust them, but I am not big on trust and it takes a lot for me to really trust someone. Might be because I have had friends in the past that I did trust with something and they promptly betrayed it, so I'm a little retiscent with trust.

Have you ever had a bad experience with your friends?
I wouldn't call it a bad experience, but one of my best friends I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. He is a good mate, but trust and honesty are not his strongest traits. I do remember an once, old school friend, I haven't seen him for years, who did betray my trust to another one of my mates. He told me and so one night we tried to set fire to him. Only saw him once or twice after that.

 

[Kinsao]

You tried to set fire to him?!?!? ... ☝ ... eeek! I've just unwittingly met up with a psycho... *looks around warily* ☝

 

[Mycernius]

Just to explain a bit more. We had a bonfire around my mates house and he was there. My mate and I found some pine branches and they lit up very well. taking one look at Paul we both shouted "He's a witch. Burn him!" a la Monty Python and persued up the garden with these burning branches. As I said, never really saw him again. I have no idea why