So...I stumbled upon an online version of Japanese a Comprehensive Grammar and found a few examples.
1. It says that when the verb is posivitive the meaning is 'more than', 'to the extent that'.
a. 苦しい時ほど愛する対象が欲しいんです。
One never wants something to love as much as in hard times.
To me, even if it tells me that it means 'to the extent that', the logic of this sentence still makes no sense.
b. 母のいない人ほど母への思いは強くなる。
No one has stronger feelings towards his mother than someone who doesn't have one.
So, in the end the problem is not with 時 but with my understanding of ほど. In order for these sentences to have these translations I'd need to do something like this: 苦しい時ほど愛する対象が欲しい
時じゃないんです。 母のいない人ほど母への思い
が強くなる
人じゃない。It seems to work for any other sentence as well...but is this the right way to think about this?
2. When the verb is negative the meaning is 'not as...as'. I guess my sentence falls under this category, although they give an example that is better tranlsated as 'to the extent': 女性は本当に意外なほど、男性の好きなものを知らない。(girls don't know about the things men like to the extent that it is truly surprising)
会いたい時ほど安易に会わない のが吉
So...with this in mind..."Not meeting as easily as when you want to meet is a joy.(Not meeting when you want to meet is a joy)" is the best I can manage. Would the sentence still be valid without 時?
Please tell me if I wrote all this for nothing because everything is wrong.
No problem
I either got this, or I got everything completely wrong. I hope it's the former though...