Will I be lonely in Tokyo?

[MoJo]

I'll be doing a year in Japan as an exchhange student soon and I was wondering, will it be impossible for me to get a date while I'm there (I'm a white girl)? All the websites for gaijin say the foreign female gets no love. Is it really so bad?
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[Nuala]

Show the japanese some skin.

 

[Bounty Hunter]

well to be honest i have heard of gaijins guys getting lots of attention,
but not really any gaijin girls :?

Am sure you can meet someone

BUT in the japanese population their is more girls to boys, so most of the guys are going to be taken.

i hope you find someone

 

[Mike Cash]

I'll be doing a year in Japan as an exchhange student soon and I was wondering, will it be impossible for me to get a date while I'm there (I'm a white girl)? All the websites for gaijin say the foreign female gets no love. Is it really so bad?
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It depends.

Many foreign (read: "white") girls seem to be interested in dating only other foreign men. Since the foreign men surrounded by J-Gals are like kids in a candy store, they often pay little or no attention to foreign girls. So if you limit yourself to your fellow foreigners, you may have a hard row to hoe, if you'll forgive a rustic idiom.

In the same way that foreign men go gaga over J-Gals, many J-Guys are very eager to date (read: "screw") foreign women. However, most of them tend to be sort of shy about even asking foreign women out, assuming that they will be refused. Also, while relationships between foreign guys and J-Gals frequently result in marriage and sproglings, the converse is not as common. So some guys may hesitate because they figure the chances of the relationship going anywhere are low. This can be because many foreign women have a strong reluctance to adapt themselves to the role of being a wife in Japan, to the prospect of living forever in Japan, and to resistance to the relationship/marriage on the part of their families.

Does that mean you can't get a date? No, of course not. It may perhaps mean that you have to put a little more effort into being charming and approachable, though. Not saying that you're not already charming and approachable, since I don't know you. But I think you get what I mean.

 

[Genius]

How old are you exactly? If you are old enough hit the night life scene. There is bound to be guys who will want to get to know you.

 

[Ewok85]

My 2 english friends were able to have some relationships whilst in Japan. Same as anywhere really (altho the guys have women throwing themselves at them :S)

 

[Grandpa Frank]

As Soon As ....

you get 20 posts you can post a nice picture of yourself. I'm sure all the guys will let you know how well you will do. You found this Forum so we know you are smart!! Stay here and post and learn and make new friends.By the time you get to Japan no male will be able to resist you!

Frank

 

[orochi]

Beyond your race or your skin color, how you present yourself and who you are will be the most important in the end. The guys who look at that will be worth getting! Have fun and be yourself and you're bound to find someone to enjoy your time with. Knowing some Japanese will help big time, too. As long as you can only speak English (assuming your native language is English, sorry), you might just end up as the "token Gaijin." Learning even some basic Japanese ups the ante big time.

 

[PopCulturePooka]

If you end up anywhere near Fujisawa hit up Free Culture.

Plenty of super cool J-guys that love western girls, and they actually love stronger more self confident western girls.

 

[dadako]

FirstHousePooka: re your other thread, take your own advice

 

[PopCulturePooka]

FirstHousePooka: re your other thread, take your own advice

The opposite at free culture is too much nowadays.

So many drunk NOVA men going for the drunk J-girls.

I head there occasionally too meet my friends. Plus heh my ex-gf has many friends around there. I can feel the laser eyes of death burn into my skull when around there.

 

[budd]

hm. where are the female posters?
hmm
posted one time since the 7th of august?
hmmm

 

[Hero]

During my trip to Japan, my girlfriend's guy-friend asked me to hook him up with a certain other female student who also came on the trip.

It was quite hilarious because it reminded me of elementary/jr. high when you ask the friend, of the girl you like, to hook you up. In this case a fellow student of the girl he liked, hehe.

In Japan I noticed lots of childish ways... e.g. guys being shy, girls being really shy until you break the ice, and if you come on to strong towards the girls they think you're a Playboy... who taught them this? There were other childish things I noticed but it's hard to explain. I kinda liked the childish behavior, lol.

From what I saw, the J-guys are shy and more reserved towards girls in general...
Possibly for fear of being shot down...???

I actually saw the J-guys & J-girls talking to the male students more then they were to the female students who came on the trip.

I kinda agree with what someone posted earlier about J-guys just wanting to get laid.
I think that'd be the first intention for most of them.

 

[Reiku]

I think it'd be the first intention of most guys ingeneral, regardless of nationality.

 

[Hero]

Yeah that's probably true, rofl

 

[Ewok85]

Damn hormones! why cant we just be friends with women

 

[Reiku]

Well, to quote Jurassic Park: "You can't just suppress 65 million years of gut instinct."

 

[sky888]

yes you will be.. in short.