What's new

Welcome to Japan Reference (JREF) - the community for all Things Japanese.

Join Today! It is fast, simple, and FREE!

should i remarry my ex?

MajideSaiaku

tsuyaku o tsukete kudasai
Joined
19 Jan 2005
Messages
1,381
Reaction score
56
I think hes decided remarrying her is out the question, but he wants to stay for japan and his son, thats good.

I think now, apart from getting a solid more perminant place to stay, which is non-negotiable, you have to decide to either let go of both ladies, or choose just one, its not healthy or helpful to have both, especially since they are in their 20s, thats enough of a problem as it is.

I think if i was you, i would let them both go and just find a palce and get my head sorted first, again, youkll make the right choice, ja ne :).
 

MajideSaiaku

tsuyaku o tsukete kudasai
Joined
19 Jan 2005
Messages
1,381
Reaction score
56
I think hes decided remarrying her is out the question, but he wants to stay for japan and his son, thats good.
I think now, apart from getting a solid more perminant place to stay, which is non-negotiable, you have to decide to either let go of both ladies, or choose just one, its not healthy or helpful to have both, especially since they are in their 20s, thats enough of a problem as it is.
I think if i was you, i would let them both go and just find a palce and get my head sorted first, again, youkll make the right choice, ja ne :).
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
mikecash said:
A re-marriage to your ex without telling her that you have no feelings for her and are going into it with the full intention of keeping on banging your honey on the side is a marriage built on a foundation of disrespect, dishonesty, and deceit. At best it would be a farce, at worst it would be a tragedy.

How you can fail to see this is beyond my ability to comprehend.

And you already know why it is wrong to be taking your kid around to meet your honey without your wife's knowledge, as is evidenced by your observation that telling her would destroy her.


It maybe all wrong of what i am doing it, but is not that easy to reverse it just like that.
as for the baby to take to my gals, what is wrong with that, he is my baby too, and remember i am divorced, so it is my life, and she has her life, we share the baby.
so what is so uncomprhesible?
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
nurizeko said:
I think hes decided remarrying her is out the question, but he wants to stay for japan and his son, thats good.
I think now, apart from getting a solid more perminant place to stay, which is non-negotiable, you have to decide to either let go of both ladies, or choose just one, its not healthy or helpful to have both, especially since they are in their 20s, thats enough of a problem as it is.
I think if i was you, i would let them both go and just find a palce and get my head sorted first, again, youkll make the right choice, ja ne :).


yep,
that is what i was thinking about,
i have to do some hurting job, that include me too.
but i have to face the beautiful reality.
 

Mike Cash

骨も命も皆此の土地に埋めよう
Joined
15 Mar 2002
Messages
16,455
Reaction score
2,255
sandoro said:
It maybe all wrong of what i am doing it, but is not that easy to reverse it just like that.
as for the baby to take to my gals, what is wrong with that, he is my baby too, and remember i am divorced, so it is my life, and she has her life, we share the baby.
so what is so uncomprhesible?

Tell your ex-wife you have been taking the child to visit the woman you're banging (and plan to continue banging after re-marrying her). I'm sure she could do a wonderful job of explaining it to you.
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
mikecash said:
Tell your ex-wife you have been taking the child to visit the woman you're banging (and plan to continue banging after re-marrying her). I'm sure she could do a wonderful job of explaining it to you.


what a good idea!
i think i will do that
thanks
 

ArmandV

Eight Times To Japan
Contributor
Joined
18 Oct 2004
Messages
2,398
Reaction score
106
sandoro said:
what a good idea!
i think i will do that
thanks

I would strongly suggest you remove anything from the room that could be used as a weapon before you do this.

I just hope your ex has never heard of the Bobbitts.
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
ArmandV said:
I would strongly suggest you remove anything from the room that could be used as a weapon before you do this.
I just hope your ex has never heard of the Bobbitts.

yep she has, unfortunately.
but did'nt he became a porno star?
so i guess i can take my chances.
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
CC1 said:
...does anyone wonder now why I mentioned the troll remark? Ai!

hi,
here we are again,
does it matter to me?
anyway thanks for the input
 

Kinsao

Horizon Rider
Joined
8 May 2005
Messages
8,423
Reaction score
140
It seems like a high price to pay to become a porn star. :eek: :sick:
 

Mars Man

先輩
Rest in Peace
Joined
28 Jul 2005
Messages
5,172
Reaction score
166
I read almost all of the thread, found some interesting comments, some good, some not so good, and some that well, I just don't know at the moment.

I just wanted to see what voices and opinions there were out there. Hummm. As mentioned, it is kind of messy, ne.....

I guess in a way, it kind of hit home. I mean, some of you know; I've married once before in the past and had two children by that marriage. I was not allowed to see the children. (married to a Japanese national; remained living in the same area of Japan) After 18 years, they got in touch with me on their own. (but my parents in American always stayed in contact with them, and sent the kids presents and all)

I have no suggestions beyond those good ones given, but just wonder, has any decision been made now? Any course of action started? Sorry for not being so helpful.
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
Mars Man said:
I read almost all of the thread, found some interesting comments, some good, some not so good, and some that well, I just don't know at the moment.
I just wanted to see what voices and opinions there were out there. Hummm. As mentioned, it is kind of messy, ne.....
I guess in a way, it kind of hit home. I mean, some of you know; I've married once before in the past and had two children by that marriage. I was not allowed to see the children. (married to a Japanese national; remained living in the same area of Japan) After 18 years, they got in touch with me on their own. (but my parents in American always stayed in contact with them, and sent the kids presents and all)
I have no suggestions beyond those good ones given, but just wonder, has any decision been made now? Any course of action started? Sorry for not being so helpful.


i still appreciated your thoughts,
it is very difficult for me right now, but time is only what i've got,
so i can definetly tell you that things will change, how i don't know.
 

Mars Man

先輩
Rest in Peace
Joined
28 Jul 2005
Messages
5,172
Reaction score
166
Well, I do wish you the best. Is your visa situation o.k.?

Please do think about it from the perspective of having reached a ripe old age too. Time marches onward !!! Talk to you later !!:) 🙂
 

sandoro

先輩
Joined
22 Nov 2005
Messages
33
Reaction score
0
Mars Man said:
Well, I do wish you the best. Is your visa situation o.k.?
Please do think about it from the perspective of having reached a ripe old age too. Time marches onward !!! Talk to you later !!:) 🙂


visa no problem what's so ever,
i am thinking to apply the permanent visa soon.
 
Top Bottom