- 4 Jan 2005
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Hey everybody,
I'm not sure if this is the right place for my thread. Please forgive me if it isn't. I have a bit of a love-dilemma going on at the moment with a Japanese friend of mine, Mariko.
I'll give you a quick background to my story. I'm an 18 year old first-year at university. About three months ago, I befriended Mariko. She's 30 and she's over here in the UK learning English until September.
I'm learning Japanese part-time at my university, so she's helping me with that and I'm helping her with English in return. We've become best friends in such a short time. We always call and meet up for food, drinks and to watch (Japanese!) movies. She has a boyfriend back in Japan, but she's going to break up with him because he lives in Narita. Mariko is from Yokohama and she thinks it's too far away to move in with him and eventually get married to him when she returns home.
Anyway, I've never been close with an Asian girl before, and from what I've read on this board anyway, they don't tend to flirt or talk about their feelings for other guys to their faces (correct me if I'm wrong). But she's been quite happy in the past to touch hands (we played one of those dumb clapping games that Japanese girls play!). We've even had a few nice hugs and she's even kissed me on the cheek before.
So, from a cultural point of view, would it be too much for her if I asked her how she felt about me? She's already told me that she feels jealous when I meet other Japanese girls and also that she feels comfortable and open with me when we're together. I don't want to spoil anything between us, but I'm crazy about Mariko. I'd like us to go further. But I don't know how or even when I should "make a move".
Ahhh ... young love! Heehee!
I'm not sure if this is the right place for my thread. Please forgive me if it isn't. I have a bit of a love-dilemma going on at the moment with a Japanese friend of mine, Mariko.
I'll give you a quick background to my story. I'm an 18 year old first-year at university. About three months ago, I befriended Mariko. She's 30 and she's over here in the UK learning English until September.
I'm learning Japanese part-time at my university, so she's helping me with that and I'm helping her with English in return. We've become best friends in such a short time. We always call and meet up for food, drinks and to watch (Japanese!) movies. She has a boyfriend back in Japan, but she's going to break up with him because he lives in Narita. Mariko is from Yokohama and she thinks it's too far away to move in with him and eventually get married to him when she returns home.
Anyway, I've never been close with an Asian girl before, and from what I've read on this board anyway, they don't tend to flirt or talk about their feelings for other guys to their faces (correct me if I'm wrong). But she's been quite happy in the past to touch hands (we played one of those dumb clapping games that Japanese girls play!). We've even had a few nice hugs and she's even kissed me on the cheek before.
So, from a cultural point of view, would it be too much for her if I asked her how she felt about me? She's already told me that she feels jealous when I meet other Japanese girls and also that she feels comfortable and open with me when we're together. I don't want to spoil anything between us, but I'm crazy about Mariko. I'd like us to go further. But I don't know how or even when I should "make a move".
Ahhh ... young love! Heehee!