Hi, Im Ryan. Other than my intro, this is my first post.
Im looking for some insight on a dilemma that has evolved in my life regarding a Japanese woman I've been seeing over the last few months.
For the last year or so it has been my intention to return to Canada to resume my career. In January of this year I met a woman who also had plans to move just three weeks after our first meeting. We started dating regardless of the short time we would have together both understanding that it would all come to an end very shortly. February came and she moved. I went to see her once in Feb. and she came to see me once in March. In April, after I finished my contract at work, I went to live with her for two weeks while I waited to go do a little traveling. As the end of the two weeks drew near, she expressed that she wanted to come back to Canada with me! We've really only spent a total of five and a half weeks together and our relationship was never a serious one (meaning we never shared deep thoughts and feelings and there was no effort by either of us to further develop the relationship). I was really taken by surprise by her comment as I had no idea she felt so deeply for me.
My dilemma is that I don't love her but she has obviously developed a keen fondess for me. I have to do the right thing and have a very painful conversation. If anyone can has some insight on how I make this conversation a little less heartbreaking for her I'd really appreciate it.
Im looking for some insight on a dilemma that has evolved in my life regarding a Japanese woman I've been seeing over the last few months.
For the last year or so it has been my intention to return to Canada to resume my career. In January of this year I met a woman who also had plans to move just three weeks after our first meeting. We started dating regardless of the short time we would have together both understanding that it would all come to an end very shortly. February came and she moved. I went to see her once in Feb. and she came to see me once in March. In April, after I finished my contract at work, I went to live with her for two weeks while I waited to go do a little traveling. As the end of the two weeks drew near, she expressed that she wanted to come back to Canada with me! We've really only spent a total of five and a half weeks together and our relationship was never a serious one (meaning we never shared deep thoughts and feelings and there was no effort by either of us to further develop the relationship). I was really taken by surprise by her comment as I had no idea she felt so deeply for me.
My dilemma is that I don't love her but she has obviously developed a keen fondess for me. I have to do the right thing and have a very painful conversation. If anyone can has some insight on how I make this conversation a little less heartbreaking for her I'd really appreciate it.