Relationships between Americans and Japanese

[Butterfly Kami]

Do many Japanese people date Americans who come to visit or live in Japan?

 

[Reita-kun]

Thats a really hard question... but from what I heard, lots of Japanese people like to date non-asian people who visit Japan... mainly Americans... because its something that different... Not your traditional Japanese person... I guess they feel more of an excitment when they are with some other person (Not only saying American but other races as well) that is not Japanese...

I hope this answers your question...

 

[MajideSaiaku]

The foreign patronage to establishment la Japan can be counted in a few hundred thousand.

The Japanese population of Japan counts into the millions.

The actual percentage who in fact have an itch for Gaijin labu-labu are in fact statistically quite insugnificant.

So many foreign guys come home bleeting gleefully about their conquests that people actually start to believe every Japanese woman is aching for foreign "services".

The truth is as always, not quite as impressive.

Edit: To awnser your question more simply, no, the vast majority of Japanese in fact care little for relationships with foreigners, if only because the vast vast majority will never interact with a foreigner beyond basic interactions in daily life.

 

[made of stone]

Do many Japanese people date Americans who come to visit or live in Japan?

There are all sorts of ways to look at (manipulate) statistics, so i'll avoid that whole deal. I'm going to re-phrase your question in the hope that i'm driving at what you want to know, and answer that instead.

'Are the single Japanese generally open to dating folk from other countries and cultures?'

YES

 

[MajideSaiaku]

'Are the single Japanese generally open to dating folk from other countries and cultures?'

YES

Wrong.

They are generally given to be creeped out and avoid foreigners.

If were talking about Japanese population as a whole.

There would have to be an insanely substantial sudden influx of foreigners living amongst the Japanese long enough to make the idea of relations with a foreigner conceivable, along with a near over-night acceptance of the foreigner within that society beyond a mere tolerance to enable deep enough interaction to allow for these relationships.


As it is women (and some men) who date a "Gaijin" are a very slim minority, almost statistically irrelivent.

Then again, I dont really know any country where the majority of folk are actively seeking relationships with foreign men.

 

[Mike Cash]

Good Lord, you sound as bitter as an old-timer.

The opinion you replied to asked if Japanese are generally open to dating foreigners, not whether the Japanese are generally interested in actively seeking out opportunities to do so.

I've yet to know of any people who were "creeped out" by foreigners and consciously avoided us. A far more common woe is the number of Japanese who creep us out by wanting to have something to do with us solely because we're foreigners...and who make that aspect very obvious.

 

[made of stone]

nurizeko, I see from your profile that you haven't spent much time in Japan. I think there is much about Japan for you learn if you open your eyes and ears and are willing to have your assumptions challenged.

To say 'They are generally given to be creeped out and avoid foreigners.' is absolute nonsense, but some of your other points are valid - for example those in rural areas would have neither the chance nor be so open to dating foreigners. And sure - the number of relationships between Japanese and others will be a small percentage of the total population, but we are talking about the available dating pool of that population (eg remove the many many millions who are already married, those of advanced age etc)

But we do not need a debate about statistics here. I took the simple question of the OP to mean roughly 'as an American in Japan will there be a decent proportion of girls who are willing to date me'?' And, as long as he isn't permanenetly stuck out in the countryside, and has access to a reasonable sized town, then the answer is yes.

 

[Glenski]

You will find Japanese (mostly women) interested in dating foreigners, infatuated with foreigners, indifferent to foreigners, and scared to death of foreigners.

Japanese men who date foreign women usually do so with fellow Asians (Chinese, Koreans, and Filipinos mostly).

 

[Mikawa Ossan]

You will find Japanese (mostly women) interested in dating foreigners, infatuated with foreigners, indifferent to foreigners, and scared to death of foreigners.
Japanese men who date foreign women usually do so with fellow Asians (Chinese, Koreans, and Filipinos mostly).

I find that men are equally infatuated with foreigners, but they tend to be a lot more shy. If you're a foreigner who speaks reasonable Japanese, men will want to be your friend, too, if given the right pretext to initiate contact.

 

[made of stone]

You will find Japanese (mostly women) interested in dating foreigners, infatuated with foreigners, indifferent to foreigners, and scared to death of foreigners.
Japanese men who date foreign women usually do so with fellow Asians (Chinese, Koreans, and Filipinos mostly).

Thank you for that, Glenski. It's nice to see someone post on this thread who has a great deal of experience living in Japan.

I'd completely agree with your four categories as a starting point to defining things. I would, though, add that none of them are beyond reach. Love will find a way, if it so chooses!

In my years in Japan, i've known many foreigners who pursued local ladies that were either indifferent initially, or even scared to death at first, but who eventually returned their feelings. Quite a few never did, of course, but that's a natural liklihood even between people from the same country. A reasonable proportion of those old acquaintances who started realtionshiips in uncertain circumstances are married to those same beaus to this day.

Again, I think the OP's question was whether or not he would be able to date Japanese girls, and I say yes.

 

[ArmandV]

Again, I think the OP's question was whether or not he would be able to date Japanese girls, and I say yes.

I would agree, unless the foreigner in question happens to look and have the manners of a neanderthal. But then, some may even go for that! ;-)

 

[mr.sumo.snr]

Did anyone not notice that this thread started Nov 8, 2003?

The OP is probably dead by now!

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[Damicci]

Did anyone not notice that this thread started Nov 8, 2003?

The OP is probably dead by now!

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Somebody must have been doing some digging to find this thread.
Shouldn't it be known by now whether or not Japanese are willing to date foreigners. I think of'course since Japan is a Homogeneous (spl) Society, It is like Americans Dating americans. We are to the point where we dont see black white asian or other, we see only americans. So Dating outside of america is possible but probably not common place. This would be the same for Japan.

Yes Japanese probably do date Americans that come to live or study in japan. Same as Many Japanese who come to the US will probably date or be liked by an American.

 

[KirinMan]

This thread is over 3 years old but if anyone noticed no one ever answered the OP in the first place.

Back then I would be willing to bet that this type of question was considered a no brainer. I find it interesting however that it got so many responses in the course of one day, this time around.

Also if I wonder if anyone realized this or not the last time the OP had any activity on this board was over 2 years ago. I guess she didn't get the answer she was looking for. Last Activity: Jan 5, 2004 04:52

 

[kirei_na_me]

Nevermind about the content of this thread(which has already been played out WAY too many times around here), I just want to know WHY someone would want to exhume something that died almost four years ago...

Someone please tell me.

 

[KirinMan]

Nevermind about the content of this thread(which has already been played out WAY too many times around here), I just want to know WHY someone would want to exhume something that died almost four years ago...
Someone please tell me.

1. Really slow news day and searched through unaswered threads?
2. Bored
3. Wanted to see if everyone else here was actually awake when they posted their replies?

4. Pad their count. :smoke:
5. All of the above

 

[Pachipro]

Although it may have died and the OP has not been back since early 2004, I think it was good for it to be resurrected in case someone asked a similar question. Besides, he/she never received a reply.

To answer the OP, I wouldn't say "many", but like any other country, there is a small fraction of the female population who desire to only date only Americans or other foreigners. However, these days quite a few of them, I have heard, are only looking for a "boy toy" or fashion accessory as it is considered "cool" to have a foreign boyfriend.

There is also a portion of males who would also like to date female foreigners but are too shy and intimidated to approach them especially with western women. With Asian women they feel more comfortable from what I have heard and been told by a few Japanese men.