One more for the girls: What kinda body should your guy have?

[Himura]

I know I know... we only judge people by character, humor and a lot of other things... well *cough cough* -but you have to admit that the body of a person IS important... It's the first thing you see and an important factor... But nobody likes the same... So girls, what do you like?

>>What kinda body should your guy have?

 

[Iron Chef]

"but you have to admit that the body of a person IS important... It's the first thing you see and an important factor..".

*sigh* Don't be so superficial Himura, you should know better than that... It's only as "important" as you make it. Body type imho is nothing more than eye candy in the initial stages of attraction. Nice to have? Sure... An absolute must? Nopers... I have known quite a few physically attractive specimens of the fairer sex in my time... but of course, once they opened their mouth to let their "personality" shine through (or lack therof), any physical attraction I may have had for them dissolved instantly.

People can always work out and get in shape, maybe get a makeover, lose a few pounds, etc. but a truly unique and endearing personality? Now that's a rare find nowadays and people should consider themselves lucky to know such a person... Looks on the other hand will only get you so far (and if you're lucky, maybe even a first impression...). Beyond that though it is what's inside that counts. Don't believe me? Look at Paris Hilton...

Unless of course someone has no interest in such things and is looking purely for self-gratification. I suppose the most any of us could ask for is to find a person with just the right mixture of both physical appeal as well as personality (but if I had to choose one or the other, I vote personality hands down every time).

 

[Elizabeth]

Normal ! Although what exactly is the standard for that here? He has the face of a man about 10 years younger than his age (a good thing) and is probably about average sized for a Japanese guy....but definately someone a full six inches shorter than I . Of course personality is primary, a Paris Hilton type wouldn't be able to deal with me either , but I'm not all that into looks for myself and frankly don't think it's worth the emotional energy to deal with any problems an outstanding physical characteristic could potentially cause in daily activities or the relationship itself.....

 

[jeisan]

you like short guys elizibeth?

 

[kirei_na_me]

Personality does it for me. Mainly someone who clicks with me in all areas. There is nothing sexier to me than a man who has a great sense of humor, who is intelligent, who is confident but not arrogant, who is down-to-earth, and for the old-fashioned side of me, someone who is able to keep things in control and kind of willing to take on the "traditional" male role, but yet also willing to let me have my way too, if that makes any sense whatsoever.

I don't think women are quite as picky when it comes to body types or whatever. A lot of women are emotional and attach to someone on an emotional level, whereas a lot of men are more superficial. Or not really superficial, just that men are more visually stimulated than women, and therefore, have a tendency to get connected on a more superficial level.

It might be nice, for a change, to have someone at least three inches taller than me, though, so I could wear all of my many pairs of heels without feeling like an Amazon(and I'm only 5'5"/165cm)...

 

[EscaFlowne]

Man of the hour!

[Looks at kirei_na_me]


stands confident!

 

[kirei_na_me]

 

[jeisan]

my gf feels the same way about the heels bit, though im a good four+ inches taller than her...

 

[EscaFlowne]

I'm only like 6'2 and something...my dads 6'4!!!!!! or i might be 6'3 anywhoo
girls like it so its all good.

 

[jeisan]

ONLY!?!?!?
with shoes on im 5'9'' and thats pushing it

 

[EscaFlowne]

lol

 

[kirei_na_me]

Originally posted by jeisan
ONLY!?!?!?
with shoes on im 5'9'' and thats pushing it

It's all good, jeisan...

 

[Elizabeth]

Originally posted by kirei_na_me
someone who is able to keep things in control and kind of willing to take on the "traditional" male role, but yet also willing to let me have my way too, if that makes any sense whatsoever.

Yeah, I'm in dire need of this as well....a technical-practical minded engineer-type with a good sense of timing clever enough to get us out of any emergency. But someone who is also very musical, intelligent, gentle, serious-minded without being scholarly and cute (in humor and their overall nature) and may have sported waist-length hair twenty-five years ago but doesn't necessarily approve of it now on young guys today is absolute perfection to me.

 

[EscaFlowne]

what do i need...from a GIRL of course.
hmmmmmmmmmmm....might fill up this whole box. Theres alot iwant.

 

[Uncle Frank]

Buda Body Availible !!

Thank God my wife likes short-fat-bald types. In the summer she sats me out in the garden in my underwear with the gnomes as a decoration !

Frank

 

[neptunemoon]

I like my guys normal i mean it all depends really on personality. You can have a great body but your personality sucks. But i do like em taller than me and I'm 5'10 so your in luck esca

 

[m477]

Originally posted by Elizabeth
....but definately someone a full six inches shorter than I .

Wow. I can't even imagine what that would feel like. I'm 6'0" so if a girl was that much taller than me she wouldn't even be able to fit in my car!

Frank - I'm sorry but I can't help but picture George Costanza now.

 

[Elizabeth]

Originally posted by m477
Wow. I can't even imagine what that would feel like. I'm 6'0" so if a girl was that much taller than me she wouldn't even be able to fit in my car!

Frank - I'm sorry but I can't help but picture George Costanza now.

I realized afterwards though that my boyfriend is probably not even 5 inches shorter since he comes up to about nose level. Although since I'm just 5'6 and he doesn't have a car, I only have to hold the umbrella. It's a small price to pay, but too bad in a way this sort of thing still matters so much.....just a psychological issue on my side I'm sure.

 

[m477]

Hey, if you are happy then that's all that matters and what other people think isn't important.

I just meant for me personally I can't imagine it what it would be like.

 

[Kaoru]

I like my men N-O-R-M-A-L, but I want one big thing.

 

[Himura]

superficial?? Dear Iron Chef, all I said is that it's the first thing you see... If somebody unknown passes your way on the street you can neither judge his character or mind nor his personality, all you can see is his face and his body...This is a thread about the body, not a thread about the personality of people...(there are already enough of them...) All I wanted to ask is what girls prefer... -But I agree with you, personality is definatly more important than physical attraction. (we already know^^) Greetings^^

 

[Iron Chef]

"all I said is that it's the first thing you see..."

Yes, you did say that... but finish your statement. You end it by saying "and an important factor..." Important to whom? You maybe, but certainly not so much for me and others perhaps as well.

"If somebody unknown passes your way on the street you can neither judge his character or mind nor his personality, all you can see is his face and his body..."

Generally speaking, I try to make it a habit of not judging people at all irregardless of their appearance let alone any specific body type whether I pass them on the street anonymously or have known them all my life... What I deem as "attractive" when I meet someone for the first time encompasses so much more than a mere first impression based on how they look and whether or not their body type appeals to me.

It is as they say, all "the little things" that do it for me. Consider for instance their overall sense of style, the way they carry themselves, whether or not they make eye contact with you, the way they light up the room when they enter, their infectious smile, their manner of speaking, the way they lightly brush their hand against you when they laugh, their ability to carry on a conversation as well as how they listen and the way they tilt their head ever so slightly when doing so, etc. etc.

All of these things and so much more can do far far more for me in those first few moments if properly executed than simply a "hot body" can. To look at merely one aspect of another person's physical appearance in order to measure their attractiveness is to be short-sighted imho.

"This is a thread about the body, not a thread about the personality of people..."

"All I wanted to ask is what girls prefer..."

And hence my "superficial" comment. This, along with your first statement shows (to me at least) that you place a disproportionate amount of importance on physicality. If you were to ask the same question to every 10 women (men as well) what body type they preferred, chances are you will get the same responses 9 out of 10 times: normal or athletic/fit. Look at those votes that have already been cast. 7 out of 8 prefer normal or thin/trained. Did we really need to poll our members to figure out something that common sense already tells us we know to be true?

Bottom line is that I am in no way, shape, or form trying to tell you what should be more important for YOU or anyone else for that matter because it is not my place to do so and I apologize if you took my remark personally. Each and every one of us is different and as such, we all place different amounts of importance on certain aspects when it comes to attraction and the opposite sex (or same sex as the case may be). And I think m477 said it best with "Hey, if you are happy then that's all that matters and what other people think isn't important."

 

[neko_girl22]

very true Iron Chef, but there's nothing wrong with talking about what we find attractive.
Personally I like men with shiny black hair and tanned skin and a tiny toosh. I love my hubby for his heart and personality but luckily for me he also has the above 3 features too

 

[noyhauser]

This is a rant...

Why does a thread even exist? Like people are going to like what they like. Its not like you can even have a discussion about this .

"say do you like broad shoulders"
"'no I like narrow"
"okay"

People like different things. I like thin girls, my friend likes athletic, stronger women. Great. Thats about it. Im sure Himura that there is many girls out there that will adore you for how you look. Frank over here found a woman who loves him for him.

and after belatedly reading Iron's post... I agree 100% with everything he says.

 

[Elizabeth]

Originally posted by Himura
This is a thread about the body, not a thread about the personality of people...(there are already enough of them...)

Mostly just about the Japanese personality, though, not what we really like or want....