nekosasori said:...But BuSmo, that line to be drawn (where the internet ceases to be the main venue for getting to know people, and the real-life interaction begins) is fuzzy. How long someone feels safe, contented, or comfortable with keeping to virtual meetings (e.g. not taking the next step) varies greatly by individual and by the dynamics of the relationship. But for any relationship, virtual or real-life, to become "serious", I suspect most folks would agree that the couple has to take a meaningful amount of time to spend in person to learn more about each other's spontaneous reactions, and their interpersonal "chemistry" etc.
So I'm not clear, actually, on what you mean by "cancelled the whole internet thing" - clearly if the "internet thing" hadn't been productive enough, we'd never have agreed to create those tests and real-life meetings in the first place.
I agree that it is fuzzy too. I think I'm trying to get at those relationships that develop where there was none to little physical contact or "in person" (does that make more sense)...have trouble to express the exact words to convey my thoughts.
I just don't see the spontaneous relationships happening through the internet mainly because of the falsehoods.
I liked your meeting story/explanation...my hat off to you with your whole experience. Anyway, it's nice to have found your other half no matter the circumstances