Kirirao
Lost in the maze of life
- 18 Sep 2004
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I really have no idea where this are supposed to go, so I'll just post here and hopefully I made the right choice.
Like the title say, I really need some insight from someone with more experience then me on Japanese people. So, here we go.
Note : some stuff is written in romanji, because I've don't know what's the appropriate term in English.
It's almost been 1 year since I enter the Senmon Gakkou I'm currently in right now. And there this one group of Japanese people in my class that I got particularly friendly with. We do hang out after class in the classroom talks and play games (モハン(PSP) for those who know).
There's this 2 particular guy in the group that I'm most friendly with. I'd like to think that we are friends. Since we went to オープン自習(open self-study?) class, where we go and create our 作品(sakuhin) (mostly, me teaching them programming tho), went for dinner after class, talk about girls that we like(lol), etc.
moving on, since I already learnt C++ back when I was in Malaysia and pretty good at it too, I've been asked alot by the people in that group particularly by those 2, to teach them programming. When their programming doesn't work when in class, some of them come to me and ask me to repair it etc etc.
But, when the groups, plans to go somewhere, I will be left out. Not even asked if I want to go with them or not. There this one time I had to ask them where are they going before one of them asked me if I wanted to go with them or not. (they were going to a newly opened game arcade nearby the school). And that was after we hang out and chat in the classroom. They just went out without telling me where they are going, and I just stand there like an idiot. And the one that told and asked me wasn't the 2 that I was particularly friendly with.
edit: (oh, and It was after class ended, and there was only me and them at that time in the classroom, chatting and stuff.)
I did heard about those Japanese group mentality, and the "if you're a gaijin you will still be a gaijin forever and you will never enter this group" mentality. Is this same case? Well, I kindda thought that we passed that mentality, even if I was wrong and they don't think I'm one of their friends, It would be nice to at least get some respect and if they would at least told me where the hell they are going after all of those help that I've gave them.
Or am I just being immature and naive?
The feeling I'm getting right now, as if I'm just a vault of information/personal programmer that will help you when you need it thinggy other then that you're not needed.
Would love to hear any insight/opinion. Anything at all.
Like the title say, I really need some insight from someone with more experience then me on Japanese people. So, here we go.
Note : some stuff is written in romanji, because I've don't know what's the appropriate term in English.
It's almost been 1 year since I enter the Senmon Gakkou I'm currently in right now. And there this one group of Japanese people in my class that I got particularly friendly with. We do hang out after class in the classroom talks and play games (モハン(PSP) for those who know).
There's this 2 particular guy in the group that I'm most friendly with. I'd like to think that we are friends. Since we went to オープン自習(open self-study?) class, where we go and create our 作品(sakuhin) (mostly, me teaching them programming tho), went for dinner after class, talk about girls that we like(lol), etc.
moving on, since I already learnt C++ back when I was in Malaysia and pretty good at it too, I've been asked alot by the people in that group particularly by those 2, to teach them programming. When their programming doesn't work when in class, some of them come to me and ask me to repair it etc etc.
But, when the groups, plans to go somewhere, I will be left out. Not even asked if I want to go with them or not. There this one time I had to ask them where are they going before one of them asked me if I wanted to go with them or not. (they were going to a newly opened game arcade nearby the school). And that was after we hang out and chat in the classroom. They just went out without telling me where they are going, and I just stand there like an idiot. And the one that told and asked me wasn't the 2 that I was particularly friendly with.
edit: (oh, and It was after class ended, and there was only me and them at that time in the classroom, chatting and stuff.)
I did heard about those Japanese group mentality, and the "if you're a gaijin you will still be a gaijin forever and you will never enter this group" mentality. Is this same case? Well, I kindda thought that we passed that mentality, even if I was wrong and they don't think I'm one of their friends, It would be nice to at least get some respect and if they would at least told me where the hell they are going after all of those help that I've gave them.
Or am I just being immature and naive?
The feeling I'm getting right now, as if I'm just a vault of information/personal programmer that will help you when you need it thinggy other then that you're not needed.
Would love to hear any insight/opinion. Anything at all.
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