MajideSaiaku
tsuyaku o tsukete kudasai
- 19 Jan 2005
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While i was in Japan, i visitted my girlfriends uncle+grandfather's home, it all seemed very nice and polite, i even got one of those new year envelopes of money? even though i tried to turn it down and felt very un-deserving of it, but they started drinking (the uncle and grandpa) and i guess the politeness may have been a mask, because it ended up with my girlfriend crying into my chest outside the house while me and her mother tried to calm her down, apparently her relatives musta said something dissaproving of our relationship, anyway, i got driven back to home, i guess i wasnt welcome...
The second time we went to her grandmother's house up in the country, after we went fishing (it was a good fishing trip to, i got to bond with my girlfriends father and i think i finally won him round, but he's not an emotional type of guy obviously so i had to be extra attentive to notice any signs that i was you know...approved for dating his daughter) we went up to her grandmothers house (her aunt also lived there,...i guess tis normal for siblings to live with elderly) and it was all very nice, a nice traditional japanese home, i was shown around, got to hold a katana (i feigned impressiveness as if ive never held katana's before or owned any *whistle whistle*) but the reason for all the politeness was that A) they didnt get drunk and rude and B) my girlfriend and her family told them i was just an exchange student through my girlfriends university staying with her.
What i want to know is has this happened to anyone else?, what happens when we marry and have kids, i once (half jokingly) told my girlfriend, "this is the boy from the exchange, he's babysitting my child, who was conceived immacualty (sorry spelling) and in his country kissing me and calling me wife is just a sign of friendship and that isnt a wedding ring, they dont wear them in his country, and also its is strange how my child looks half japanese isnt it?".
Whats going to be the consiquences of me making it quite clear to her relatives her status with me?...whats going to be the consiquences for her and our child?...or for her parents who;ve accepted me?.
Ugh, this is so insane, i mean, being hated on for my skin colour (which isnt that much different) i thought that was left back in the19th century, or in neo-nazi club houses...
The second time we went to her grandmother's house up in the country, after we went fishing (it was a good fishing trip to, i got to bond with my girlfriends father and i think i finally won him round, but he's not an emotional type of guy obviously so i had to be extra attentive to notice any signs that i was you know...approved for dating his daughter) we went up to her grandmothers house (her aunt also lived there,...i guess tis normal for siblings to live with elderly) and it was all very nice, a nice traditional japanese home, i was shown around, got to hold a katana (i feigned impressiveness as if ive never held katana's before or owned any *whistle whistle*) but the reason for all the politeness was that A) they didnt get drunk and rude and B) my girlfriend and her family told them i was just an exchange student through my girlfriends university staying with her.
What i want to know is has this happened to anyone else?, what happens when we marry and have kids, i once (half jokingly) told my girlfriend, "this is the boy from the exchange, he's babysitting my child, who was conceived immacualty (sorry spelling) and in his country kissing me and calling me wife is just a sign of friendship and that isnt a wedding ring, they dont wear them in his country, and also its is strange how my child looks half japanese isnt it?".
Whats going to be the consiquences of me making it quite clear to her relatives her status with me?...whats going to be the consiquences for her and our child?...or for her parents who;ve accepted me?.
Ugh, this is so insane, i mean, being hated on for my skin colour (which isnt that much different) i thought that was left back in the19th century, or in neo-nazi club houses...