manekineko2
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- 22 Jun 2003
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It seems common to me to see Western men falling in love with and marrying Asian women. I have never (to my knowledge) seen it the other way around. I am an American woman who is engaged to a man from Tokyo. I met him online and fell in love with him the second that I saw his picture. We later talked, and have since met. I am going to Japan in a few weeks, and I am really excited. My parents are both deceased, so there is no problem with him requesting permission to marry me. My sister is sceptical. My niece is excited for me. Everybody else just plain doesn't understand. Before I met my fiance, I had practically given up on men. American men did not treat me very well. They lacked commitment, understanding and were more concerned with the ten pounds extra on my body than what was in my head or in my heart. That was no so when I met my fiance. Interestingly enough, I am five feet tall, so he was still taller than me--a real concern with many Western women.
My main question is this: We are undecided if he should move to the US or me to Japan. I may be able to get an English teaching job, but I have a house here in the US. His apartment in Tokyo is tiny. I feel that he would be able to get a job here, but he is terrified. It would be a different culture and language for whichever one of us made the change. I am susceptible to his fears of being put into a different environment. I am currently learning the Japanese language. He already speaks English. Do you think that it would be better for him to move or for me? Which one of us would have better luck seeking employment and making the necessary transition?
Also, do you recommend getting married in the US or Japan? I was told that if I were to take the paperwork to the US consulate in Tokyo, it would take half the time. If he were to come here on a fiance visa, he would have three months to do some sightseeing, get to know me better and line up employment. I have some Japanese contacts that would be willing to assist him.
My preference, actually, is for him to come here for about five to ten years, invest in yen, sell my home and retire to Japan, but it is a mutual decision. Doesn't this "smiley" look like Qoo?
My main question is this: We are undecided if he should move to the US or me to Japan. I may be able to get an English teaching job, but I have a house here in the US. His apartment in Tokyo is tiny. I feel that he would be able to get a job here, but he is terrified. It would be a different culture and language for whichever one of us made the change. I am susceptible to his fears of being put into a different environment. I am currently learning the Japanese language. He already speaks English. Do you think that it would be better for him to move or for me? Which one of us would have better luck seeking employment and making the necessary transition?
Also, do you recommend getting married in the US or Japan? I was told that if I were to take the paperwork to the US consulate in Tokyo, it would take half the time. If he were to come here on a fiance visa, he would have three months to do some sightseeing, get to know me better and line up employment. I have some Japanese contacts that would be willing to assist him.
My preference, actually, is for him to come here for about five to ten years, invest in yen, sell my home and retire to Japan, but it is a mutual decision. Doesn't this "smiley" look like Qoo?