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KashimaKing

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Hi everyone,

Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but id appreciate advice from anyone who has experience in this area!

I won't go into the personal side too much, but I'm in Japan on a working holiday due to finish in March 2017. I live with my Japanese girlfriend and we have been together for 3 years now (for 2 years was long visits and long distance).

I dont have a degree, hence the working holiday, so pretty much the only way i can stay is to get married and stay on a spouse visa, if its possible.

To be honest, even if we didn't need it, we planned to get married anyway and we have been engaged for quite some time. Our plan is to get married in January 2017, then the same month apply for the visa. I am under the impression that if the process roles over my expiry date, I'm able to stay in japan until they give a yes or no?

the whole thing seems too easy, what is the catch?

PS - We both work full time - I speak Japanese - we of course have pictures to prove the authenticity of our relationship.

Thank you very much!
 
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Mike Cash

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Why should there be a catch?

Is this going to be yet another thread you start and abandon? Or are you actually going to give some indication you have come back and checked for replies for a change?
 

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Why should there be a catch?

Is this going to be yet another thread you start and abandon? Or are you actually going to give some indication you have come back and checked for replies for a change?
Oh my apologies! I thought this was a forum where I ask a question and read the replies, I didn't realize I needed to come back to debate the answers, find out your favorite color and add you to my Christmas card list.

On these forums you usually find people who have lived in Japan for quite some time and experienced relevant things to people like me, so its useful to have this tool. You could have said 'there is no catch', rather than 'why would there be a catch?' Try that next time!
 

Mike Cash

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Oh my apologies! I thought this was a forum where I ask a question and read the replies
You were mistaken. It's a discussion forum. Starting threads and failing to give some indication you have at least come back and checked for answers makes people unlikely to bother answering subsequent inquiries.

It's a matter of simple common sense and common courtesy. Try to act like you had some upbringing.
 

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You were mistaken. It's a discussion forum. Starting threads and failing to give some indication you have at least come back and checked for answers makes people unlikely to bother answering subsequent inquiries.

It's a matter of simple common sense and common courtesy. Try to act like you had some upbringing.
Thank you for the useful advice, I gained literally nothing from this whole experience other than a good laugh. I advise you to flex your knowledge of big-boy words somewhere else though. People come to these places for answers in times of crisis for advice from people with more experience who may be able to help them, not to be verbally bullied by people. It is a complete waste of everyones time. As you opened this query for the first time, you literally went through the thought process and made the decision not to even address my query, but attack me instead, and thats not very nice. I've not experienced that before in a community like this before.

I would say thank you for your help, but I actually think maybe someone like you, can learn a lot form someone like me, someone who actually has 'common courtesy'.

'Is this going to be yet another thread you start and abandon? Or are you actually going to give some indication you have come back and checked for replies for a change?' - really? what a silly thing to say, does your mum know you say things like that to other adults?

For next time this is what I advise, I can teach you. You could have said...

- Sorry I dont hold the knowledge in able to assist you with your query. Also not to be rude but next time check the replies as this is a discussion forum, thanks!

Do you understand? Do you need me to explain anything?
 
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Mike Cash

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What was the "big-boy" word that tripped you up? Subsequent?
 

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What was the "big-boy" word that tripped you up? Subsequent?
No, but I can tell you are very intelligent from the fact that you used it. Im sure it means the queries to follow, as in subsequent questions from me will be ignored. Actually to be honest Im VERY familiar with the word! Truth be told I just would never use it when talking on an internet forum about Japan-related life queries, because I'm not a complete idiot.
 

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And I can tell you must have some sort of complex about being ignorant if people using "big-boy" words bothers you.

If pointing out your lack of posting manners in your previous activity here makes me rude, then I'll just have to be thought rude.

Why would you think there is a catch to the spouse visa thing? Your relationship (forgive the big-boy word) is on the up and up and you're (I can misuse "your" and "you're" if it would make you more comfortable) not gaming the system. There is a strong possibility (word too big?) your spouse visa will be approved before your current visa expires in March anyway.

What is it about this being a Japan-related forum that makes you think using a word like "subsequent" would make you look like an idiot?
 

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There is no catch. You provide the paperwork and go to city hall or the ward office where you intend to live. Ten minutes later you will be married.

Confirm with immigration you can stay while your spouse visa is being processed beyond your WHV deadline.
 

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And I can tell you must have some sort of complex about being ignorant if people using "big-boy" words bothers you.

If pointing out your lack of posting manners in your previous activity here makes me rude, then I'll just have to be thought rude.

Why would you think there is a catch to the spouse visa thing? Your relationship (forgive the big-boy word) is on the up and up and you're (I can misuse "your" and "you're" if it would make you more comfortable) not gaming the system. There is a strong possibility (word too big?) your spouse visa will be approved before your current visa expires in March anyway.

What is it about this being a Japan-related forum that makes you think using a word like "subsequent" would make you look like an idiot?
Yeah Mike you missed the point a little bit there, but thats okay.

Im afraid you will get people like me, you aren't bad people, and DO like your big words, but are unfortunately very afraid, afraid because they love Japan and their life and need advice on people who have been in Japan for a long time and who essentially (I can do it too) act as experts for people like me, who haven't been here long, but WANT to stay here for a long time. Visa/relationships issues are not nice to deal with.

Thanks Mike, I know you'll decline my offer to be my best friend, but I am a fan of yours now, a big fan.
 

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There is no catch. You provide the paperwork and go to city hall or the ward office where you intend to live. Ten minutes later you will be married.

Confirm with immigration you can stay while your spouse visa is being processed beyond your WHV deadline.
Take a look at this one Mike,see what he did? See how he answered me there?
 

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Oh my apologies! I thought this was a forum where I ask a question and read the replies, I didn't realize I needed to come back to debate the answers, find out your favorite color and add you to my Christmas card list.
I could not have imagined a more thin-skinned response to being called out for not acknowledging responses to your previous questions.

Before you get defensive, try to picture this scenario:
Imagine you came up to a group of people and asked a question; one or two people responded with relevant information, and you turn around and walk away without saying anything. Repeat this a couple times asking different questions, and the third time someone asks in an annoyed tone if you're even going to acknowledge the answer, or follow up with more information you found, or confirm that you'll follow their advice, or even report back how it went. Perhaps to mask the embarrassment of being called out for poor manners, you instead lash out at them, call them a bully, and sarcastically tell them you aren't there to be their friend... then lecture them on how they should respond to your questions.

How do you think that looks to the other people in the crowd? Would you expect them to continue answering your questions?

You may be interacting with us through a machine through a supposed mask of anonymity, but we're still just a crowd of human beings. The answers provided on this forum and the feedback we receive (on how that advice panned out) is for the benefit of all, and by seeming to ignore responses and not replying not only are you lowering the overall decorum of the forum, you're robbing future users of the benefit of your experience, and whether or not the advice given was any good.
 

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I could not have imagined a more thin-skinned response to being called out for not acknowledging responses to your previous questions.

Before you get defensive, try to picture this scenario:
Imagine you came up to a group of people and asked a question; one or two people responded with relevant information, and you turn around and walk away without saying anything. Repeat this a couple times asking different questions, and the third time someone asks in an annoyed tone if you're even going to acknowledge the answer, or follow up with more information you found, or confirm that you'll follow their advice, or even report back how it went. Perhaps to mask the embarrassment of being called out for poor manners, you instead lash out at them, call them a bully, and sarcastically tell them you aren't there to be their friend... then lecture them on how they should respond to your questions.

How do you think that looks to the other people in the crowd? Would you expect them to continue answering your questions?

You may be interacting with us through a machine through a supposed mask of anonymity, but we're still just a crowd of human beings. The answers provided on this forum and the feedback we receive (on how that advice panned out) is for the benefit of all, and by seeming to ignore responses and not replying not only are you lowering the overall decorum of the forum, you're robbing future users of the benefit of your experience, and whether or not the advice given was any good.
So basically I posted my query in 3 J-forums and also reached out to a YouTube personality for advice, all came back to me no issues. Actually in this thread, one user dared to do something out of the ordinary and simply replied to me without making some strange accusation that I don't deserve a reply due to a lack of social skills.

but here, when I think the laughs have ended, Mike Cash 'The Sequel' comes along out of nowhere and just ignites everything again, obviously, wasting everyone's time, again.

You just said it yourself, this is the Internet, it's a forum for goodness sake, of course the same social rules that apply in real life just don't apply here, get over yourself.

Mr Cash could have simply ignored me if he liked, there is never a need for offensive comments. I had a look at Mike Cash's greatest hits, and it seems the majority of his posts are very snobby and weirdly stuck up, so I took some time out of my day to have some fun.

He doesn't realise but I'm actually a great admirer and a huge fan of his. I thought calling people out on forums finished when I turned 16, but Mike comes along and proves me wrong!
 

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So basically I posted my query in 3 J-forums and also reached out to a YouTube personality for advice, all came back to me no issues. Actually in this thread, one user dared to do something out of the ordinary and simply replied to me without making some strange accusation that I don't deserve a reply due to a lack of social skills.

but here, when I think the laughs have ended, Mike Cash 'The Sequel' comes along out of nowhere and just ignites everything again, obviously, wasting everyone's time, again.

You just said it yourself, this is the Internet, it's a forum for goodness sake, of course the same social rules that apply in real life just don't apply here, get over yourself.

Mr Cash could have simply ignored me if he liked, there is never a need for offensive comments. I had a look at Mike Cash's greatest hits, and it seems the majority of his posts are very snobby and weirdly stuck up, so I took some time out of my day to have some fun.

He doesn't realise but I'm actually a great admirer and a huge fan of his. I thought calling people out on forums finished when I turned 16, but Mike comes along and proves me wrong!

mike is a good guy
 

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You just said it yourself, this is the Internet, it's a forum for goodness sake, of course the same social rules that apply in real life just don't apply here, get over yourself.
You could have just said that you didn't read my post.

Mr Cash could have simply ignored me if he liked, there is never a need for offensive comments. I had a look at Mike Cash's greatest hits, and it seems the majority of his posts are very snobby and weirdly stuck up, so I took some time out of my day to have some fun.
So you admit that you were just trolling in your responses to Mike?
 
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